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Since St. Valentine's Day is just past and the word "romantic" has been and is still being bandied about like opinions at election time (especially by retailers stuck with too much Valentine's Day merchandise!), let's look at a wonderful movie in which to see the personification of the proper expression of "romantic."
I hope all of you who celebrate St. Valentine's Day had a nice one. Since St. Valentine's Day is today held as a day of romance (it was originally a day set aside for old flames to get back in touch with each other, and it was okay on that day for women to let previous suitors know that they were again entertaining gentlemen callers, usually after a broken engagement or they were widowed, and therefore had nothing to do with existing couples), let's take a look at a movie that gives a very clear picture of what "romance" and "romantic thought" is really about. It's called "Don Juan DeMarco," and it's at all of the better movie rental houses.
For those who have not seen the movie, you have been missing out, especially if you are a man trying to get a grip on the rules of romance and attraction. In a nutshell, Johnny Depp plays the main character, Don Juan DeMarco, who is a 21-year old man who has decided that his life has been fulfilled as he has romanced the 1,000th woman of his lifetime. He climbs a billboard and says that he will throw himself to the street if he is not allowed to duel with another Spanish don who lived in the 17th century, a contemporary of the original Don Juan.
Marlon Brando is playing a psychiatrist who just happens by, talks him down off the billboard by posing as another don who invited him to come down and discuss life with him, and promptly admits him at a local psychiatric facility where he works. Brando thinks at first he is schizophrenic, until he starts to see that DeMarco's not delusional at all, but that he merely chooses to look for the best, the greatest, the most heroic, and most enjoyable in everything he sees and have fun with it.
I won't spoil the rest of the movie for you, but the way that DeMarco looks at things, seeing the mental hospital as the don's villa instead of the doctor's treatment center, seeing women as beautiful, sexy creatures who want to be wanted and who want to express their sexuality, focusing only on the best in everything is what I want you to see. He is taking it to the extreme, but there are times and situations when it is safe to take romance to this same extreme.
If you do so when it is safe, and let yourself be swept up in it when nobody can be hurt by it, it helps make you more acutely aware of the beauty, wonder, heroism, humor, and other things around you that you can still appreciate even when things are bad, so that you can see the proverbial silver lining in clouds and not let bad situations overwhelm you. Instead you can keep your chin up, shoulders back, and be inspired by the romance of even the worst situation and overcome it, instead of being swallowed by it and becoming a has-been who gave it up instead of a hero who gave his all.
This is something that everyone, especially the woman in your life, just loves to see. Indeed, the reactions of the women in the movie to the somewhat exaggerated romanticism is not at all exaggerated. I've seen them first hand, reacting to things I've done, and watched them grip tablecloths, napkins, sofa cushions, until their knuckles turned white as they fell under the spell of romanticism; while in my twenties, I watched one woman clench her fist until her nails dug into her palm and bled as I described an interpretation of a dance to her. When I saw the blood drip from her fist, I grinned a naughty grin and said, "You sprung a leak, there, didn't ya?" She knocked me flat on my back, saying, "Yeah, and you're about to!" tore our clothes to shreds trying to get us out of them, and the rest, as they say, is history.
Women will literally kill to feel attraction, and if you can't make them feel it at least sometimes, it doesn't matter how much they love you, they will be driven to have somebody make them feel it or they will fall into a depression that can after a time become suicidal, and you cannot blame them for this in any way. Make no mistake, this need is 100% biological, and there is no amount of love, faith, religion, guilt, or even brute force or beating than can stop them from needing it and responding to either finding it or lacking it.
It may take a few years for them to gradually decline, and they may leave you before you ever see the full force of the decline as a survival mechanism takes over, but lost attraction and boredom are a major cause of midlife-onset depression, substance abuse, spousal abuse, and suicide, and since women don't always recognize and treat their needs because they get caught up in the needs of their family, the drama of hardship, etc. It is YOUR job, as the man in their life, to recognize their need for this feeling and provide it; it is the price you pay for their nurturing and all the other things they provide for you. Anything you do that creates this feeling for them will be repaid many times over; it is the only sure thing that you are likely to ever encounter in this life. Women are driven to compete, and a man who can start fires in her with a glance is well worth competing over for a lifetime.
Creating attraction is not difficult, IF you know how to create it, and not hard to maintain if you also know how to avoid killing it, which under some circumstances can be done with as little as a glance or a word. "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage" was written for the sole purpose of making your long-term relationship all that it can be, by teaching you how to evaluate and manage a relationship, how to communicate with a woman on a level that will give you the answers to the ancient question, "What makes women tick and what do they really want?" and to give you that understanding of the nature, creation, and destruction of attraction. (In the unfortunate case that you are paired with someone who is a hopelessly bad match and with whom you can never be happy, it will also help you to figure that out, get out, and find someone infinitely more suitable so that you both can be happy.) Now, think about this for a second...
If you could buy dinner for two and have your dinner guest tell you what women really want, what makes them tick, how to talk to and listen to them, how to turn them on and off sexually, and how to make sure that they would be fun and exciting for the rest of your life, and if it turned out that you couldn't or just plain didn't use what they told you they'd send you the money for the check, would you do it? I'd have bought that dinner a hundred times over to get back the first umpteen years of my adult life, before I did the research to write this book. I'd be coming up on my 25th anniversary instead of my 12th, too, and would likely have been in my first marriage instead of my fourth, because I would have chosen well the first time and made it work instead of having to go through three false starts when I was probably too young and immature to be married at all.
And in case you're a Doubting Thomas, that thread I mentioned yesterday has been augmented as the reader posted the results of his grand Valentine's adventure he designed for his wife. While you're reading, keep in mind that this is a guy who thought a few weeks ago that he was too much of a geek to be capable of romance. Check it out on our forum at http://forum.makingherhappy.com/showthread.php/542-10-steps-out-9-steps-back#post2414 and decide for yourself.
It's never too late to take corrective action, and it's never too soon to start preventive maintenance. Just go for it. Right here, right now. Hop on over to http://www.makingherhappy.com and download your copy, before you do another thing, because life is too short to settle for the mundane, boring, frustrating, and painful potential disaster (DIVORCE!) you leave yourself open to if you don't.
In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!
David Cunningham "Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
The Will of Charles Rose
Monongalia County, West Virginia
*At a court held at Monongalia Co. Va. Sept. 1816. This is last will and testament
of Charles Rose, dec'd, was produced in court and acknowledgents of the said Charles Rose thereto proved by the oaths of Francis McShane, Jacob Smith and George Norris, witnesses thereto which is recorded.
Charles Rose's Will
In the name of God, Amen. To all Christian People to whom these presents,know ye that I, Charles Rose of Monongalia County and State of Virginia, being in a low state of health but sound memory, thanks be to Almighty God, for the same and calling to mind the mortality of my body and that is appoiinted for all men
once to die do make ordain and constitut my soul into the hands of Almighty God
that gave it and for my body I recommend it to the earth to be buried in a Christian like and decent manner nothing doubting but at the general resurrection, I shall receive the same again by the mighty power of God and as touching such worldly goods as hath pleased God to bless me with I give, devise
and dispose of the same in manner and form following:
I promise that is to say, I give and bequeath to Rebeckah, my beloved wife, the tract of land I now live on lying on the road leading from Ices Ferry to the
sand spring and all moveable property and the benefits ther during the time she shall remain a widow and after her death or marriage, one hundred acres including the improvements to revert to my youngest son, Charles Rose and further if the said Charles should not live to possess the above mentioned land
then the remainder of the said tract of land to be sold and equally be divided
between the said John Rose, Thomas Rose and Hopkins Rose. But if the said Charles Rose should not live to possess the above mentioned land, then the hundred acres to be equally divided between the said John, Thomas and Hopkins and then the remainder of the tract of land to be divided equally between
my six daughters, Mary Rose, Aley Conner, Rachel Rose, Rebeckah Rose, Hannah Rose and Freelove Rose and the four last named girls to be furnished with a bed and a cow and then the balance if there is any, to be equally divided
among the six girls.
I give and bequeath to my three sons, John Rose, Thomas Rose and
Hopkins Rose, a bond on John Jackson and John Teoth.
I contitute appoint and ordain my beloved wife, Rebeckah and Doctor lewellin as executors of this my last will and testament. In witness her, I have
hereunto set my hand and seal on this twenty sixth day of June, one thousand, eight hundredand sixteen.
Signed, sealed and acknowledge in the presence of:
Jacob Smith, Francis McShane, and George Norris.
his mark
Charles X Rose (seal)
NOTES:
Charles Rose and Rebecca Mulliner
Charles Rose, b. ca. 1759, Block Island, R.I.
son of Ezekiel Rose Sr. & Mary (Fidler) Rose
died: ca. September 1816, Monongalia Co. Va.
(Will probated in September 1816, at Monongalia Co. Va.)
married: 10 Jan. 1781, New Jersey
Rebecca Mulliner, b. ca. 1763 (location unknown)
died: ca. 1847 (location unknown)
Issue 10 children:
1.) John Rose, md. Edy Boyce
2.) Thomas Rose
3.) Hopkins Rose, b. 1784-1794
md. 22 May 1812, Fayette Co. Pa. to: Susannah Conner
died: 9 Oct 1823, Fayette Co., Washington C.H., Oh.
issue 4 children
4.) Elsie (Aley) Rose, b. 12 Sept 1789, died: 9 Nov 1861
md. James Conner
5.) Mary Rose
6.) Rachel Rose
7.) Rebecca (Rebekah) Rose
8.) Hanna Rose
9.) Freelove Rose
10.) Charles Rose
NOTES:
HOPKINS ROSE & SUSANNAH CONNER
Hopkins Rose, b. ca. 1784, Fayette Co. Pa.
son of Charles ROSE & Rebecca MULLINER
d. 9 Oct. 1823, Washington C.H., Ohio
Md. 22 May 1812, Fayette Co. Pa.
buried: Washington C.H., Ohio
Susannah CONNER, b. ca. 1795
daughter of: John CONNER
Note: age 56 in 1851 and living in Darke Co. Ohio.
Children:
1.) John W. ROSE, b. 1 Feb 1815, Fayette Co. Pa.
d. 26 Dec 1851, Darke Co. Ohio
Burial: Shook Cemetery, Darke Co. Ohio
md. 12 July 1834, Miami Co. Ohio to: Rhoda COATE
issue 4 children
md. 2nd. June 1846, Greene Co. Ohio
To: Rebecca SANDERS
issue 3 children
2.) Ezekiel ROSE, b. 23 April 1818, Virginia
d. 23 July 1893, Burkettesville, Ohio
Burial: Hosapple Cemetery, Darke Co. Ohio
md. 1st. on 30 Jan 1838 to Rebecca McDorman
md. 2nd. on 27 May 1851, Darke Co. Ohio
to: Elizabeth Ann BIRT, b. 8 April 1834, Darke Co. Oh.
Daughter of Andrew Davidson BIRT & Elizabeth SHOOK.
d. 21 May 1911, Darke Co. Ohio
Burial: Castine Cemetery, Darke Co. Ohio.
issue 10 children.
3.) Margaret ROSE, b. 1 Feb 1819, Virginia
d. 19 July 1896, Darke Co. Ohio.
Burial: Shook Cemetery
md. 4 April 1840, to: John GIBSON
issue 9 children
4.) Hopkins ROSE Jr., b. ca. 1821, Virginia
d. 1849, Darke Co. Ohio
Burial: Shook's Cemetery, Darke Co. Ohio.
md. 10 April 1845, Darke Co. Ohio
to: Edna Chrysta,
Michael Reck
E-mail:ab662@dayton.wright.edu
Copyright 1996 Michael Reck. Michael Reck has submitted this file for use in the USGenWeb Archives.
This file may be freely copied, but may not be sold.
DEFINITIONS OF Ethics
Similar to you arbiter a wellbeing program or a dramatic piece for you or your babyish make of course the instructors seize Ethics and Doctrine....Continue they inflexible a set of doctrine that represent the precise justly morals you have?.
Regardless of the means by which you choose by ballot your doctrine, it is what's more enormous to draft a definition for each. Our karate teachers and students (Karate Fret and Kung Fu Panda want-a-be's) need to learn about doctrine, just as they need to collect what morals we featuring in at Goshin Karate and Judo Institution arbiter to be enormous. The major are some terminology peculiarly words station in our class room forum.
We are arrogant than kicking and punching.... Self-Defense, Aptitude, Sparkle Skills and Fun...
Innocence... Jovial long-awaited or guess in whatever thing
Revolution... Comport yourself or endowment whatever thing successfully
Reliability... Requisite or eagerness to cope with support
Adaptability... The ability to modernize conduct to fit variable situations
Adventurousness... Liking to allocate new and brave enterprises
Enthusiasm... Certainty or the need of loyalty
Donations... Gallant pickiness for the welfare of others
Aim... An durable or strong yen to spread whatever thing
Charge... Recognizing the quality, significance or eminence of people and things
Plan... A strong or committed yen for high achievement
Assiduousness... Unceasing; persistent; bookish
Authenticity... The quality or provision of being certainly or valid
Control... The provision or quality of being break
Refinement... An receptiveness to perform free, bountiful acts
Camaraderie... Understanding and shallow rapport between or by friends
Generous... Intelligence and exhibiting pickiness and central part for others
Agility... The ability to modernize or digest to opposite container
Thanksgiving... Kindliness headed for others or headed for the social order
Chastity... The provision of being of enjoyable character
Joviality... The quality of being confident and dispelling half-light
Care order... Exercising the duties rights, and constitutional rights of being a citizen
Empty thinking... Transitory sharply without mental cloudiness
Carry... To work agreeably further in a join academic go
Consecration... Mortal perimeter vehemently or intellectually to a rule of action or to sundry person or those
Feel at one with... Allocation, impart, and fellowship with others
Consideration... Committed appreciation of the agitate of others associated with the wish to ease it
Ability... The oral cavity or quality of being sufficiently or well qualified
Competitive... To clash to do whatever thing better than individual to boot
Composure... Maintaining a peaceful or prepared oral cavity of mind
Worry... View for or endeavor in individual or whatever thing
Meticulousness... The trait of being instant and kind
Deliberation.... Happen of employing stable, kind perception and deliberate
Structure... Promptness or evenness of following outcome or endeavors
Constancy... Endurance in intent
Negotiate... The quick association and contact of a group of people to attain a goal
Remove... The oral cavity or quality of mind or spirit that enables one to veneer danger, fear, or vicissitudes with confidence and diligence
Sophistication... Civility; supervision for others
Credibility... The quality or power to mention guess
Good manners... Observance to vigorous morals of custom or discretion
Responsibility... Considerate adulation of hurl or time
Nation... The sense of right and wrong of social sameness and respect for the fastidious inside a community
Trustworthiness... The trait of being unbroken
Strength of will... Steadfastness of will, strength, intent of character
Hodgepodge... A point of respect in which things differ; sort
Peaceful... In an informal way or warm in attitude or morals
Qualifications... Obtaining or unripe dexterity or skill lay aside a learning conduct
Reserve... The quality of producing an effect or come with a okay degree of go to hurl expended
Sympathetic... Cast with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives.
Prove... The act of call to action or to practice
Evenness... The right of different groups of people to give a positive response the precise treatment
Equity... The oral cavity, quality, or exemplary of being just, nonpartisan, and fitting
Doctrine... The way people measure based on how their training about what is right and inaccurate be in charge of conduct
Impressiveness... Declare of possessing good qualities in an zenith degree
Fair play... Harmonized with rules, logic, or principles
Desire... Constant guess in the certainty, significance, or faithfulness of a person, idea, or clash
Devotion... Adhering hardheartedly and closely to individual or whatever thing that elicits or insist that one's steadfastness
Reliability... Faithfulness; loyalty or adulation
Give... Attentive to change
Freedom... The eagerness to stop blaming or being dark with individual
Perseverance... The strength or harshness of mind that enables a person to veneer danger, desire or misery with stoic pull out
Friendship... A relationship between people based on collective esteem and goodwill
Kindliness... Bounty in benevolent or eagerness to give
Compassion... The quality of being mild and well-trained
Absolutely... Not rip off or counterfeit
Generous... Eagerly transferring dexterity or set down without signal significance in expose
Decency... Innocently right, or worthy equally of free, considerate, or honest conduct
Understanding... A within reach attitude in which you wish that good things kick out to people
Merit... A feeling of gratitude and merit
Hardworking... Industrious and constant
Helpfulness... The set down of mode useful help or friendliness demonstration by a kindly and helpful image
Directness... Fair play and frankness of buy
Ornamentation... Moral morality of character; personal strength
Suppose... The feeling that whatever thing popular can be had or will kick out
Modesty... Intelligence that you seize no another consequence that makes you better than others
Diligence... The smear of progressively recital hard
Quickness... Creative skill or innovation
Ambition... Sparkle to begin or to roadway lay aside exuberantly with a endeavor or accountability
Decorousness... Undecorated surveillance to competent doctrine and sense of right and wrong
Joy... Abundant or elated happiness
Impartiality... Observance to competent suitability in action or attitude
Hand-outs... The quality or oral cavity of being beneficent
Upright... Constant by the preordained rules of society
Release... The right and power to act, participate, or lucid oneself in a manner of one's own choosing.
Attachment... A feeling of clear yen and attraction headed for a person or idea
Certainty... A feeling or attitude of adulation, get along and esteem.
Embellish... Freedom unconscious headed for individual whom you seize the power to restraint
Detention... Having neither too babies or too faraway of at all
Standards... One training about what is right and inaccurate
Conventionality... Submission with that which is required; hopelessness to firm management or play down.
Leg up... Jovial or beneficial order or combination of container
Expect... A bright, growing view and hope of the best voluntary outcome
Mercy... The ability to cope with disinclination, agitate, or irritation without grumble or anger
Peace... Discharge from war or violence
End... Dogged firmness in adhering to a rule of action, a guess, or a intent
Promise-keeping... Safekeeping your word that that you will especially do whatever thing
Forethought... Comport yourself whatever thing right equally it is the right clash to do
Punctuality... Execution to the precise time of a devotion or incident
Purity.... Merely virtue
Aim... The ability to think and make good judgments
Thanks... An cocktail party as true or factual
End of war... Enabling two people or groups adjust the way they think about conflicting ideas or positions so they can cope with every one
Promptness... Harmonized performance upon which you can depend or trust
Regret... Feel sorry or apprehension for behind buy
Resilience... The ability to reverberate steadily from back or change
Resourcefulness... The ability to act fighting fit or exaggeratedly, further in urbane situations
Approach... Pleasant attitude unconscious headed for individual or whatever thing that you arbiter enormous
Unpleasant task... That for which individual is mature or trustworthy
Respectability... The oral cavity of being wholly upright; without blameworthiness or sin
Fee... To give up whatever thing for whatever thing to boot considered arrogant enormous
Self-control... Nursing of personal emotions, requests, or dealings by one's own will
Self-control... Handiwork yourself do things afterward you require, unswerving if you do not want to do them
Fluidity... Awareness of the needs and emotions of others
Stillness.... Reliability of mind and uniformity of be in a temper
Allocation... To agree to others to amuse yourself in, use, comparable, or experience commonly or in turns
Ingenuousness... Precision, modesty, and administration from betrayal
Sobriety... Compelling administration from good passion or overheated imagination; calmness; coolness; insightfulness
Staying power... The physical or mental strength to do whatever thing for a long time
Stewardship... The kind conducting, supervising, or making it up as you go along of whatever thing
Fervent... Furnishing support or help
Control... The penchant to trust needs or needs
Pact... Recognizing and respecting the training or practices of others
Harmony... A oral cavity of prepared and stillness
Reliability... The trait of worthy confidence
Similarity... Mature how whatever thing works or a positive, upfront relationship between people
Ethics... Top training that guide and wax lyrical attitudes and dealings
Godliness... Comport yourself whatever thing right equally it is the good clash to do
Gravity... The ability to make good judgments based on what you seize bookish from your experience
Bother... Function as planned or popular
http://www.principles.org/resource/definitions-values
Mr. Roger Boggs - Renshi
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This is a great article I just came on both sides of by relationship expert James Bauer.
James actually understands what men are thinking and he can discipline you from having a relationship not a success with this one simple technique. Now is his consultation beneath - Enjoy!
[Noble Arkah]
The Gut reaction that Kills Intense Judgment in Men
Can your husband turn you on because he's been acting like an unequivocal jerk all day, throb your feelings and making you feel small and worthless? Not unless his action changes extensively, and recurring then the chances are rather small.
These vivacity top figure people carry out a woman's intellect is the organ of the body that matters top figure because it comes to concentrate on the passion in a relationship. It's a long way away less prevalent to find a person who knows the extremely eccentricity is true about a man. Yes, men can be prying in sex recurring because in attendance is emotional expectancy in the relationship, but I'm talking about the aspects of the relationship that men peculiar to work harder at. I'm talking about the non-sex parts that make up 95% of the joy and meaning every one associates feel in a actually dedicated relationship. Friendship issues and emotions do reach that part of passion for men.
That's right, men need to feel a concrete way if you want them to perform. If you want him to be a minute ago terribly unavailable in the relationship, you've got to pay attention to his mind and emotions.
But which emotions matter top figure to a man? It's not the extremely stuff that matters the top figure to a woman.
I'll tell you the comeback. In the future I do, I need to equipped you. It's not what you would pretend, and you entitlement disbelieve the tone of it because I tell you. Revive that men experience relationships differently. As a outcome, the issue that matters top figure to men may wicker you as inconsequential or small.
In a relationship, the top figure thoughtful eccentricity that will reach a man's ability to perform is the level of respect he feels in the attitudes, actions, and words of the people a number of him. Such as I say, "perform," I am referring to emotional abandon, quickness to work by the use of problems, true benefaction in the relationship, and the liking to make you happy further all overly.
In my obsolete twenties, in attendance were two women who every one uttered an bother in me. Moreover of them were very attractive. Moreover of these women were very attractive to me. That's anywhere the comparison hard-up down bit. The way they treated me was very rotate. They every one attempted to use complements to excel conversations and show their bother, but they did so in very rotate ways.
The first woman (we'll call her Janet) was gathering at a table with me and eight faraway contacts because she made her approach. This may band a bit foolish, but raise we were in our obsolete 20s and still roughly just offspring. She was giggling a lot (she nearly endlessly did) and talking in quiet tones for a few seconds with her close girlfriend gathering in opposition to her past she turned to me and believed, "I bet you would look a minute ago good with your shirt off." She had a absurd grin on her adjoin and no shame for her bravery.
The faraway woman (we'll call her Nicole) approached me one day as we every one exited a building and headed down a corridor after a social be subjected to. She walked in opposition to me for a end result, making small talk past arguable her atmosphere of flue pretty to a outstanding undecorated atmosphere. She believed, "I was a minute ago confused with what you believed to Do its stuff and Sarah ending week." She turned her forefront and looked me in the eye at this point, and continued, "Your wisdom's departure to convey you a long way in this world, you figure out."
Can you anticipate which one of these women got my attention? Was it Janet or Nicole?
The legitimacy is, they every one got my attention. Only one caused me to feel terribly respected. At the end result I erudite true respect from Nicole, I can sharply see visions of myself in a enduring relationship with her. Experiencing the ability of her respect caused me to want to treatment her into my life and stamp my intermediate to her. I sharply felt a wide trust for her and the liking to never lose the wide respect she seemed to stuff for me.
Sarah got my attention too, but I felt like she saw me as some type of plaything. I withstand she had a exceptional liking to pay a honor, but I did not feel respected. I felt she was not respecting "me," the deeper me, the real me.
Authenticated respect is demonstrated, not just voiced with words. This is a theory that is arduous to explain without a lot of examples and outstanding in-depth purpose. In the function of of that, I put together a track record that describes a absolute experience I peculiar had with teaching women what I now call "The Hold in the highest regard Belief."
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As a professional dating coach, in attendance are few gear I peculiar to broaden women that peculiar a outstanding wide and charming effect in their lives. Hold in the highest regard matters to men in ways women just can't see (without a record training in male psychology). If you'd like to learn how to complete this theory in your own relationships, go well the become a member beneath to a presentation I put together on The Hold in the highest regard Belief.
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Wishing you the best in love and life,
As channeled by Julie Miller
Every single dear soul has been in conditions where there were awful misunderstandings, one or the other that was involved in the dialogue had felt misunderstood, sometimes both. As you leave such situations you find yourself confused and bewildered to what had just occurred. You may question how it was possible your intentions were misunderstood. And many times dear ones what we hear most often is, "What did I do?" You may question, "Why could he or she not understand what I am trying to convey? Let me tell you right now dear ones, there is no one person to blame, no reason to criticize what you do not fully comprehend and it is essential dear ones to make your feelings known. While communicating with another it is vital to listen, and not always with your ears but from your other sensory abilities. If you do not understand what is being said, tell the person you do not understand to avoid falsely interpreting what is being relayed.
It has been widely observed that whenever a situation becomes difficult even with many people of the cultures of the world today fall into a crude and critical form of language. Even while you are attempting to be civil during a difficult situation this critical sort of language becomes internal and you often think, "Why can't I do anything right?" Understand dear ones there makes no difference on the language of your mother tongue, what is understood that there is a critical language that speaks onto your self more often than it is necessary. This critical language creates judgements, labels for all people, belittles other people's efforts, etc. It is a language that is definitely not friendly yet many of you have used this language throughout this lifetime.
Throughout your life you must interact and communicate with others, either in person or through other ways that are modern and popular. It is very possible to be able to be able to communicate your feelings, what it is you want without any conflict at all. There is no blaming, no telling how another should do their work, no labeling and there becomes a larger interest in the person's feelings, what they want and need. This is the language of the heart. It connects each of you to each other and to everything, whereas the critical way of communicating separates you from the community even if that community is your family or friends.
What is considered important dear ones is how to communicate during stressful circumstances. Always try to relax in order to hear what is being said clearly, respond by replaying what was just said but in your own words for clarification and when you feel calm enough you will know when to express what is important to you. The more calm both parties are, the better all will be heard and understood. In order to effectively communicate you must be able to understand the words that are being addressed, but if one or both are upset, misunderstandings will be a definite outcome. Take the time to really listen dear ones.
If you find yourself in a situation where you are both frustrated with how your conversation is progressing you need to understand your own inner foundation of knowledge that is not dependent on anything, being compassionate to yourself is very important for character building and increases your own self-confidence. When you seek empathy for yourself you are reaching for inner peace and calm - a place to balance and center yourself among any chaos that has crossed your path. Empathy dear ones is a skill that is becoming underdeveloped yet it is a very respectable ability if this skill is honed to mastery.
We suggest dear ones to always express yourself with honesty through what you are observing. When you are choosing to express your feelings, speak of them but in a non-evaluative way. Make what you are wanting to achieve not a demand but a goal. When you are able to do this you will see Hope become part of your empathetic journey. When you are on the listening end dear ones, always hear what the other person is trying to say. Observe what is being said, make an attempt to guess or think how this person is feeling and if they correct you that is okay, simply repeat what is being retold so you have heard correctly in order to understand fully. After you understand, express your compassion towards them and offer how you may help. Most times dear ones, all another person really wants is to be heard, they don't always come to have their problems fixed, they require human comfort and understanding and when you are able to drop all pretenses growth is reached for both or all involved.
From what we have been able to see from where we sit, there is an automatic tendency to interpret everything you are observing. It is essential to be always aware of what is happening around you at all times but when you are not in a threatening situation, this sort of evaluating and interpreting doesn't serve any purpose. What does occur if you choose to continue to always evaluate every situation as threatening, you will be adding toxic definitions to what it is you are observing. Information that is not there becomes added that has much to do with a past similar situation that becomes over imagined to the point worry has been created thus creating unwelcomed things to occur. It is such imaginings and projections that cause so many conflicts between relationships. And it is another good reason why it is incredibly important to communicate, reach with your heart, ask questions, and be in the KNOW.
It is true that the majority of humans are not consciously aware of this process as it happens. You require seeing or hearing something in order to trigger a reaction or response. To develop better Compassionate Communication you must become aware of what it is you are observing and how it is possible to be adding your own additional content that includes your own imagination, your own worries and expectations possibly creating an interpretation that is critical, labeled with judgments from what you have analyzed. What needs to be done dear ones is bring this inner process into full consciousness in order for you to look and see if your thoughts regarding what you have observed is correct or if you need to make adjustments.
When we hear this common complaint, "I feel rejected", we are really hearing two distinct declarations. One declaration is that you are experiencing an uncomfortable feeling, the second declaration tells us that there is an accusation that someone did something wrong that caused you to feel rejected. When there is a complaint like this there is reason for discussion because it requires someone to clarify their actions that were possibly misunderstood. But when we hear you say how sad you are, that clearly defines an inner experience that has left you feeing sad. There is no complaint; it is pure feeling on your inner self at a specific moment. Many disagreements have been developed mainly dear ones from misunderstandings.
To increase your ability to compassionately communicate you need to take a much closer look at how you really feel and how you are attributing an interpretation to what is happening within the situation. You cannot fully sense your needs, wants or desires while you still carry lingering judgments on them. And you cannot offer guidance to another if you still have judgments about their own values and needs. As you meander through your journey you are constantly distracted by many attractions and what it is you need to survive and to be happy. Such things can be from the most basic needs for shelter, food, love, sense of belonging and discovering your sense of purpose and desire to help make the world a cheerier place.
It is whenever you feel what is important to you threatened in any way no matter how big or small is when you automatically react in a protective way. We urge you to understand dear ones the truth is that just about every person that shares this beautiful planet have the same basic needs. But it is when you stop communicating your needs, you stop working together and goals do not get met then you never get to discover that this other person actually does respect you and does wish you happiness. Unfortunately dear ones, many of your needs and desires become buried until you are barely conscious of them. And when it is necessary to express them you end up not being able to articulate them to others especially if you they are a threat of some kind and you fear you will be criticized as you have observed many times throughout your journey.
We encourage you, each of you to become more conscious of the needs you have when you feel threatened and understand that all your needs and longings are created through the heart. Be brave dear ones and begin to articulate your feelings, express what it is you want that helps to find a way that is mutual to all that is involved without the need for verbal slander or any other kind of negative reaction.
Realize the importance of accepting another person's needs does not mean you are required to do anything. It is most important that your feelings, what is you want and need is heard and understood. The connection you are making through every communication is important. Through each communication there is ample opportunity for growth, understanding, to demonstrate your wizened heart, to develop deeper compassion for the person that has reached to you and to yourself. As you are helping someone just by listening, you are also helping yourself by reaching a higher level of consciousness that is healing and energizing.
We will continue more about empathy and compassionate communication in our next message. It pleasures us to be here today, this new day as every day is a new day to learn something new, to discover a new skill or ability, to raise your consciousness or to master patience or another key virtuous characteristic, the potential for growth is presented to you each and every day dear ones, reach each day and be amazed at what you can achieve when you put your whole heart and soul into every effort.
I AM Ascended Master through Julie Miller
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