That's right, it's time to shed that winter insulation and get ready for bikinis, volleyball, backyard barbecues, and all those other fun activities that require baring skin, and exposing your jelly belly if you picked one up through the winter. Here's a typical letter about this most common problem, and a very sticky one to say the least. Meet Tia:
Dear David,
I need your help. The past few months I have put on a few extra pounds due to a medication that I have to take for my asthma. Everybody tells me that they don't notice it and I look good, but to me I feel like the Goodyear blimp and have no desire to be intimate with my husband at all because I'm embarrassed over having curves in places that were flat. The more he tries to tell me I look sexy the more his advances just make me feel pressured, and I hate feeling under pressure this way. It has nothing to do with not loving him or not wanting to enjoy each other the way we always have. We have always been very in touch with each other and being together in the bed was always one of the best parts.
I was hoping you could give me some advice as to how I could bring this up with him. I want him to understand just how awful I feel I look and how it has nothing to do with him at this point.
Thank you,
Tia
Tia, I'm going to make this really easy for you, because it's such a great question. Just print this article and let him read it, because I'm going to tell him and all the other men about this. He won't know it's you unless you tell him because I've changed the name to protect your privacy.
Get ready guys! Pay close attention, take notes, and make sure you fully understand what you're about to read. This is some of the most critical information to ever appear in this newsletter and you need to get this down pat and cold, right now, because sooner or later, EVERY woman will experience a bit of weight gain that makes her uncomfortable with her appearance, and consequently, with YOU.
If you've read "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," you know about the difference in the male and female brain structure. Aside from making our communications styles and methods grossly different, it also makes women visualize and dramatize to the extreme compared to males.
You also must remember that nearly all of the advertising in the fashion and beauty industries is designed to prey upon a woman's sense of competitiveness to make her feel insecure about her appearance. Women are literally bombarded with this crap everywhere they look, and while you or I probably wouldn't even notice a little weight gain until we had to loosen our belt a notch or sew a button back on our trousers that had popped off, to them a pound or two can be nearly or wholly traumatic, especially if they've taken pride in a flat stomach for a long time.
We often respond to this by telling them that they look "fine, sexy, hot," etc., and that is precisely the wrong thing to do. Why?
She knows what she sees in the mirror, and thinks that you see what she sees in the mirror. If she thinks she looks fat and you say she looks sexy, all that says to her is that either you're lying or your standards are really, really low. Don't go there, even if you really think she looks better with a couple of extra pounds because you like the curves, and whatever you do, DON'T tell her you like the new curves! That can get you killed, because in her ears, that's, "But honey, I like you better when you're fat like this." Ladies, you are cordially invited to write and tell the men just that - I'll reprint your letters so the men will know just how serious an issue this is. And guys, there are some women at our forum, http://forum.makingherhappy.com/, that will verify this and everything else I tell you, and often elaborate as well. Check it out.
So what are you supposed to do?
You'd already know this, too, if you had read "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," because you wouldn't be making those kinds of advances and doing really stupid things like asking her to have sex with you. You'd be tripping her attraction triggers with alpha male behavior, naughty talk and gestures, and making her have fun and get so hot that she didn't concern herself with her additional weight because she'd still feel sexy and desirable, and she'd be coming after YOU!
When you know what a woman wants, what "makes her tick," how to both listen and talk to her, and how to have fun with her, she doesn't feel like a middle-aged housewife that can't compete with the 20-somethings anymore. She feels like a real queen who rules the world at your side by day and a red hot vixen by night, keeping that naughty little secret for you and you alone because you create it for her. There's a time and place, not to mention a right way and a wrong way, for everything, and that includes delivering genuine, honest compliments, and giving them because they have been earned, not because you're trying to get something in return. That's called "flattery," and it will get you absolutely nowhere with anyone who is worth getting anywhere with.
That, Gentlemen, is how a real man makes a real woman feel, and that is what you learn when you read "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage." So how many more times are you going to have to stick your foot in your mouth and spend the night in the doghouse before you go to http://www.makingherhappy.com/ and download your copy? Go now, and get it done, because there are far better things to do with your feet (and your mouth!).
In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!
David Cunningham
"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
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