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What Do Women Find Attractive

7:30 AM | Labels: leadership theories, lover, pua

I WAS OUT WITH MY FRIEND THE OTHER DAY AND AS WE CHATTED, THE QUESTION CAME UP: "WHAT DO WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE IN MEN?" HE WAS CURIOUS ABOUT MY TAKE, SO I SAID WITHOUT HESITATION: "HUMOR AND CONFIDENCE." THEN, I HESITATED. I WANTED TO NAME A THIRD QUALITY, BUT COULDN'T MAKE UP MY MIND: BRAINS? POSTURE? CHARISMA? WIT? AUDACITY? SO WE STOPPED AND ASKED TWO GIRLS SITTING BY THE WAYSIDE. "SMILE", ONE SAID, AND THE OTHER ADDED: "A MAN'S EYES." AND I SAY: ALL OF IT IS SPOT-ON, AND THE GOOD NEWS IS, A MAN CAN DEVELOP EVERY ATTRACTIVE FEATURE WOMEN DESIRE. EVEN THE EYES AND THE SMILE.

APPEARANCE AND PERSONALITY

IT'S FUNNY: MY INTUITIVE ANSWERS TO MY FRIEND'S QUESTIONS - CLASSIC "PICKUP" KNOWLEDGE TURNED INTO REFLEXES - DESCRIBED QUALITIES OF CHARACTER, WHILE THE GIRLS QUICKLY RESPONDED WITH PHYSICAL APPEARANCES - A SMILE, THE EYES. "VISIBLE" THINGS. I THINK WE'RE BOTH RIGHT. AND WE'RE BOTH SAYING THE SAME THING.

I KNOW A BUNCH OF GUYS WHO KNOW HOW TO SMILE AND HAVE EYES LIKE TERENCE HILL OR JOHNNY DEPP. YET, THEY SUCK WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN - AND NOT IN A GOOD WAY. IF I'D INTRODUCED THEM TO THE TWO LADIES, THEY WOULD HAVE MADE SURE TO RUN AWAY BEFORE BOREDOM WOULD RENDER THEM IMMOBILE AND ENDLESSLY EXPOSE THEM TO THESE GUYS' MONOTONOUS DRONING AND DROOLING.

YET, A MAN THAT HAS HIS PERSONALITY, CONFIDENCE AND DEMEANOR TOGETHER WILL ALMOST AUTOMATICALLY HAVE THE SMILE AND EYES TO GO WITH THEM. TO BECOME ATTRACTIVE, YOU WANT TO WORK ON BOTH: PERSONALITY AND APPEARANCE.

LET'S LOOK AT THE THE SKILLS BEFORE WE EXPLORE HOW TO GET IN.

WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO PERSONALITY

TO TRIGGER ATTRACTION IN A WOMAN, YOU WANT TO BE:

- Challenging

- Smart

- Funny

- Confident

TRAITS LIKE THESE BUILD YOUR CHARISMATIC PERSONALITY. YOU CAN BE CHALLENGING BY PLAYFULLY TEASING A GIRL: "OH, YOU JUST WANT ME FOR MY BODY", "I'LL HAVE TO BREAK UP WITH YOU AND KEEP OUR CAR AND PET PLATYPUS", "AND YOU THINK THAT'S HOW YOU EARN POINTS WITH ME?" RE-FRAME YOUR INTERACTION AS A SEXUAL TREAT THAT SHE'S TRYING TO EARN, BUT IS IN THE PROCESS OF LOSING.

HEY, WHEN YOU START TALKING TO HER, SHE PROBABLY WON'T BE INTERESTED IN "GETTING" YOU. BUT WATCH HER START TO CHASE YOU WHEN YOU ACCUSE HER OF IT, AND TELLING HER SHE'LL LOSE YOU. BE PLAYFUL ABOUT IT, SMILE, BUT DON'T BE A CLOWN - LEAVE HER WONDERING WHETHER YOU'RE SERIOUS OR NOT. BE JUST A BIT TOO CONVINCED OF YOUR AWESOMENESS. THE GREAT THING IS, THIS ALONE MAKES YOU APPEAR FUNNY, SMART AND CONFIDENT AT THE SAME TIME.

NEVER GIVE HER A CLEAR ANSWER UNLESS IT'S "NO". THIS IS FLIRTING - IT'S NOT ABOUT BEING HONEST, IT'S ABOUT BEING INTRIGUING. YOU'RE NOT IN A JOB INTERVIEW. INJECT SOME LIFE INTO IT! WHEN SHE ASKS YOU WHAT YOU DO, WHICH ANSWER IS BETTER?

- "I sell insurance plans."

- "I came here to hunt down my nemesis, the Joker, but then I took up stripping"."

NOW, ANOTHER LITTLE HINT FOR YOU. YOU CAN DO THE ABOVE TO "TRIGGER" ATTRACTION - BUT WHAT QUALITIES WILL ALLOW YOU TO "KEEP" IT?

- Honesty

- Openness

- Integrity

A GOOD SEDUCER KNOWS WHEN TO SWITCH GEARS, TOO. BUT THIS IS MATERIAL FOR ANOTHER ARTICLE. NOW, I'M GOING TO HAND YOU THE TICKET THAT QUALIFIES YOU.

AN ATTRACTIVE APPEARANCE

YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE IS THE VERY FIRST IMPRESSION YOU PROJECT. IT COULD YOUR THE LAST. YOU SEE, EVEN THE MOST INTRIGUING CHARACTER CAN BE SCREWED UP BY BAD POSTURE, UNKEMPT LOOKS, SMELL OR A BAD OUTFIT. GET A STYLISH PAIR OF SHOES, A FASHIONABLE HAIRCUT, FITTING CLOTHES THAT SHOW YOUR BODY IN THE BEST LIGHT POSSIBLE. WORK OUT AND DO SPORTS TO STAY IN SHAPE, EAT HEALTHILY, MAKE SURE YOU HAVE ENOUGH SLEEP AND PERIODS OF RELAXATION IN YOUR DAY.

IN SHORT, CARE FOR YOURSELF

ULTIMATELY, IT'S NOT JUST ABOUT PLEASING WOMEN FOR THE SAKE OF ATTRACTION. WHEN SEARCHING FOR WHAT DO WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE, YOU'LL FIND THAT WHAT THEY'RE ATTRACTED TO IS GOOD FOR YOU TO BEGIN WITH: SOCIAL SKILLS, HEALTH, HUMOR, FASHIONABLE LOOKS, SUCCESS, WEALTH, STRENGTH, CONFIDENCE. IF YOU IMPROVE THESE ASPECTS OF YOUR LIFE, OF YOURSELF, YOU WON'T JUST BECOME MORE ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN. YOU WILL BECOME A BETTER PERSON ALL AROUND.

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Well Formed New Year Resolutions Part 2

3:05 PM | Labels: leadership theories, online dating best sites, pua

Using the 'Well Formed Outcome" from NLP (NeuroLinguistic Programming) to make goals and new years resolutions can be a useful way to make sure that they are constructed in a way that maximizes the chance of success.

In Well Formed New Year's Resolutions Part 1 we discovered a series of questions that help us form resolutions and goals that are stated in the positive, in terms of what can be seen, felt, heard, tasted or touched and in a way that presupposes that we ourselves can accomplish them, without depending on anyone else changing to accommodate us.

The next questions are:

How will you know when you have it? (Evidence procedure)

It is important to make sure that your evidence procedure gives meaningful feedback. For Example if your goal is to "to stop procrastinating at work " and your evidence is that you are feeling good at the end of the day, you need a different kind of evidence. Feeling good at the end of the day is great, but seeing a 50% increase in the number of calls on your call log over the previous year's average would be a much more useful measure of your having accomplished your goal.

Where, when and with whom do you want it? (context)

One of my partners in an NLP training exercise said that he wanted to be "calm, and focused." I asked him, "Where, when and with whom do you want it?" He replied, "Always, everywhere, and with everyone."

He was a high school principal, so I asked, "So if your football team wins the state championship, you want to be calm and focused? How about when making love to your wife? Or, when you walk down the isle to give your daughter's hand in marriage, or the first time you hold your grandchild?"

Of course, he said "no" to all of those questions.

After a little more digging, it turns out that the specific time, place and context that he wanted to be calm and focused was in a parent conference dealing with disciplinary issues with a student. Apparently, he had been getting a little flustered in those kinds of conferences.

Is it sensory-based?

What will you see, feel, hear, and taste in the appropriate context that will automatically trigger the new choices?

Just answering these questions will help you form new years resolutions that are achievable, and the process of answering the questions is a great first step in making them happen.

Source: relationships-rescue.blogspot.com