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This is what i said while walking with her, 'Holding hands':
Me: Why are you like this ?
Her: Like what ? (Makes that face, as if she didn't know what was going on)
Me: You know exactly what i mean ? (Smiling at her and pointed to her that we were holding hands)
Me: How long am i going to pretend that nothing is going on. Whatever you are doing, to me seems pretty childish (Smiling). You are not only wasting my time, your own as well. I just want you to be honest, FRIENDS don't act the way you do around me. FRIENDS don't hold hands, follow one another around, give almost all of their attention to a person. You say sometimes i am acting mean and rude towards you, this is exactly why because i am not sure of your intentions, i am not sure what is going on in your head. Even on my birthday, you were looking out for me, i tried to do my best to avoid you, so i went to get a drink and it doesn't take you more than a minute and you go out looking for me. Then i got into an arguement and was kicked out from a bar, you left, ignoring all the others even your best friend and came with me to another bar alone. You let me touch you, hold your hand, grab you, play with your hair and when i try to talk to another girl, your all like, why don't you talk to her, she is pretty. I'd like to take you out, because i really like hanging out with you and i want you to get to know me.
Me: You say you know almost everything about me. I don't think so.
Me: Did you know my parents were Headbangers !
Her: Smiling and laughing a bit.
Me: I just don't know what your intentions are and honestly speaking i'd like to take you out because i feel there is something to this. I just don't want you to be sitting somewhere years later and thinking about this day and saying to yourself, God Damit, He asked me out and i should have said YES ! But then its going to be too late. (Smiling at her). I just want you to be honest for once and i know you went through a lot with your EX but i hope you won't judge me the same way.
Her: I don't know what to say. I really like you as a FRIEND.
Me: Then there is nothing to worry about because i would love to be your friend.
Of course i can't be friends the way i was with her now. I like her a lot and of all the things she did, it pointed clearly that she liked me. But why would she say this ? Is she unsure ? Even i am a friend and have the same group of friends, i would be seeing her again, what if she continues to do the same things ?... Should i give her some time ?
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KETIKA JODOH YANG KITA NANTIKAN TIDAK JUGA KUNJUNG TIBA, APAKAH KITA HARUS PASRAH DAN BERDIAM DIRI SAJA...? TENTU TIDAK BUKAN...?
Ketika jodoh tidak kunjung tiba, kita pun harus percaya diri, optimis dan lebih membuka diri, serta percaya kalau jodoh akan datang pada saat yang tepat dan tentunya harus dibarengi pula dengan usaha dalam mencari jodoh dan berdoa.
Bicara tentang jodoh, ada orang yang begitu mudah mendapatkan jodoh ketika berusia masih sangat belia, saat duduk di bangku SMU atau pun saat kuliah, sementara itu ada pula orang yang telah mencoba berbagai usaha, namun sang jodoh pun tidak kunjung tiba.
Seringkali kita mendengar cerita pasangan yang sudah cukup lama pacaran, tiba-tiba mereka putus, entah karena ada perbedaan prinsip ataupun hal yang lainnya, sudah tidak ada kecocokan satu sama lain, biasanya mereka dengan getir akan mengatakan "Mungkin dia bukan jodoh saya" atau "Sudah tidak ada lagi rasa cinta" dan ada pula orang yang berkenalan dalam jangka waktu singkat, kemudian melangsungkan pernikahan, dan mengatakan "Dia adalah jodohku, inilah orang yang selama ini kucari-cari".
LAW OF ATTRACTION & RAHASIA MAGNET CINTA
"Anda adalah makhluk elektromagnetik yang memancarkan frekuensi. Hanya hal-hal yang berada dalam frekuensi yang sama dengan frekuensi yang Anda pancarkanlah yang bisa datang ke pengalaman Anda. Setiap orang, peristiwa, dan situasi di dalam hari Anda memberitahukan di frekuensi mana Anda berada."(Rhonda Byrne - The Secret)
Untuk mendapatkan pasangan hidup yang tepat sesuai dengan apa yang kita inginkan, hal penting yang kita harus ketahui adalah memahami prinsip law of attraction, karena Law of attraction (singkat : LOA) adalah kunci untuk mendapatkan apapun yang kita inginkan didalam hidup apakah itu pekerjaan yang tepat, bisnis yang tepat, kekayaan, kesehatan, dsb, termasuk mendapatkan pasangan hidup yang kita inginkan.
Law Of Attraction (Hukum tarik menarik) adalah hukum alam, sama halnya seperti hukum gravitasi ataupun hukum aksi dan reaksi atau sebab akibat, Prinsip Law Of attraction adalah kita akan menarik apapun kedalam kehidupan kita, apa yang paling kita fokuskan didalam pikiran kita, baik itu hal yang positif ataupun negatif. Jadi jika anda sering mengalami musibah, anda selalu kesulitan keuangan, hidup terasa sulit, atau justru kebalikannya anda anda selalu mendapatkan keberuntungan, jauh dari masalah, dan hidup dengan penuh kebahagiaan. Itu adalah akibat anda menerapkan LOA didalam hidup anda baik secara sadar atau tidak sadar.
Fenomena LOA yang juga sehari-hari sering terjadi didalam kehidapan kita adalah, pada saat kita memikirkan seseorang entah itu teman kita orang yang sudah lama kita tidak kita temui, atau kita sedang memikirkan pasangan kita lalu tiba-tiba saja orang yang kita sedang pikirkan tersebut ternyata mengirimkan sms atau menelpon kita. Atau kita sedang berfikir tentang makanan yang baru saja kita lihat di iklan atau kita lihat dijalan sewaktu pulang kerumah, lalu tiba-tiba makanan yang kita inginkan sudah tersedia dirumah atau ada orang yang membelikannya untuk kita. Dan masih banyak lagi kejadian LOA lainnya yang mungkin pernah kita alami, yang mana biasanya kita sebut kejadian-kejadian ini dengan peristiwa kebetulan, takdir, keberuntungan atau seperti sudah diatur semestinya terjadi seperti ini.
Jadi tidak ada sebenarnya sesuatu yang kebetulan yang terjadi didalam hidup, semuanya terjadi karena anda menginginkan sesuatu hanya saja anda tidak sadar akan hal itu. Bahkan ketika anda sedang membaca tulisan saya ini, ini bukanlah hal yang kebetulan, entah karena refrensi atau anda sedang iseng browsing di internet atau memang anda sedang mencari artikel tentang masalah pasangan hidup, akhirnya anda masuk ke website saya lalu membaca tulisan-tulisan saya karena ada sesuatu yang menarik dari tulisan-tulisan saya. Ini adalah LOA, anda sesungguhnya sedang mencari jawaban dari pertanyaan-pertanyaan hidup anda, sehingga anda akhirnya bisa mampir disini. Dan mendapatkan pasangan hidup yang tepat yang kita inginkan juga bukanlah hal yang kebetulan, anda bisa mendapatkannya jika anda memahami prinsip LOA ini, karena keyakinan saya kenapa anda belum bisa mendapatkan jodoh yang tepat bukan karena Tuhan belum mengirimkan jodoh untuk anda, jodoh anda sudah anda, tapi anda tidak tahu bagaimana cara menjemputnya. Kenapa anda tidak tahu bagaimana cara menjemputnya karena tidak ada orang yang mengajari anda atau memberitahu anda bagaimana cara menjemputnya.
Lalu bagaimana proses untuk mendapatkan pasangan hidup dengan menggunakan prinsip LOA ? yang harus anda lakukan adalah bertanya kepada diri anda pasangan hidup seperti apa yang anda inginkan, anda harus clear (jelas) dahulu dengan apa yang anda inginkan, setelah anda sudah tahu dengan jelas pasangan seperti apa yang anda inginkan, berfokuslah pada apa yang anda inginkan, karena dengan berfokus pada apa yang anda inginkan cepat atau lambat maka anda akan dipertemukan dengan pasangan anda, anda tidak perlu tahu bagaimana anda akan bertemu dengan pasangan anda, karena anda akan ditunjukan jalannya.
Untuk anda yang saat ini masih kesulitan menemukan pasangan hidup yang tepat dan menganggap bahwa mendapatkan pasangan hidup yang tepat adalah hal yang penting untuk anda, silahkan ikuti EVENT AKTIVASI MAGNET CINTA atau konsultasi secara langsung dan mendapatkan personal coaching dari saya, hubungi 081231649477.
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We talk a lot, and those conversations, if we use assertive communication skills, can make a big difference in how our relationships go. If I have anything to add to the assertive communication skills dialogue, it is an awareness of how rapidly we change internally based on our perception of and interpretation of nonverbal communications.
Mihalyi Csikzsentmihalyi in his book Flow (1993) estimated that we process seven bits of sensory data in parallel, and that the shortest amount of time between sets of seven bits is 1/18th second. Remember, it takes 1/10th second to blink your eyes.
Michael Merzenich,Ph.D., one of the world's leading researchers on neuroplasticity, says that Senior drivers need to be prepared to process changes in driving conditions in 1/45th second.
Paul Ekman,Ph.D. says we respond to facial expressions in 1/25th second, and my stress response to a look of contempt from a boss, a mate, or a child, may happen faster than I can create words. I had better be on my assertive communication game plan if I am to sustain assertiveness.
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In my domestic violence groups, I really use the reflective listening and the relaxation skills.
Every person who comes to my group has a story to tell, which will be told using their current level of assertiveness training.
More than likely, their story will be told using aggressive or passive-aggressive communication skills.
In those early moments of building our relationship, reflective listening will be a key part of helping my court ordered student to settle in.
So I will begin my comments with the phrase, "Here is what I hear you saying." and repeat back to them a summary of the story.
In order to summarize the story, I need to listen closely, and I make an effort to repeat the client's story verbatim in my head,which keeps me from preparing my "very knowledgeable" retort.
My goal in using the reflective listening is to begin teaching by example what assertive communication skills are. I often ask clients how they feel when someone pays attention to them, and the usual reply is, "good".
In fact, when I use reflective listening skills, I can watch an agitated person calm down.
I may even begin to teach my clients at this point the HeartMath process, which always intrigues them, because I ask some provocative questions leading into it.
Then I may even hook them up, so they get a sense at this early part of the process that it is their thinking about the external world that brings on physical changes, and how fast that happens.
By the way HeartMath is a biofeedback tool that gives very accurate information to a client via a computer screen about the time between heart beats and how to make that time more consistent, which is called coherence, by breathing deeply and regularly, and managing thoughts. HeartMath is a feel good experience, and once learned, (took me six 1/2 hour practices), I can cue the physiology on demand by repeating a thought.
The heart has a very sophisticated nervous system, and sends a lot of data to the brain about emotions, much more than the brain sends to the heart. This brain in the heart is affiliative and cooperative, so cuing the HeartMath physiology has a huge impact on assertive communication skills.
I also like to teach the assertive communication skills that are part of the John Gottman,Ph.D., model called The Art and Science of Love, especially for my domesitic violence and anger management clients.
Gottman has studied couples for 30 years, and has teased out of his work the skills that the Masters of Marriage use.
Those skills apply to assertive communication skills. After discovering your partner's Love Map, you begin to Turn Towards Each Other During Everyday Events by honoring what Gottman calls invitations to turn toward.
Those invitations can be very subtly communicated, so one has to pay attention and make quick decisions about how to respond.
Most of Our Communication is Nonverbal
I teach quite a bit about how we respond nonverbally to facial expressions, based on the work of Paul Ekman,Ph.D. Ekman says that we can respond to a subtle expression of contempt with anger in 1/25th second which is about 2.5 times as fast as I can blink my eyes.
So assertive communication skills have got to come online fast, along with my HeartMath skills to give me a chance to respond to contempt assertively rather than aggressively or passive-aggressively.
In any communication, I will respond to facial expressions and body posture before the words that are spoken.
If the speaker is not congruent in verbal and nonverbal communication, the listener may create an stress response faster than they can create reflective listening words.
Daniel Goleman calls that an amygdala high jack, and it floods us with stress hormones, making assertive communication very hard, if not impossible.
The Gottman's address what they call 'flooding' in their work. They recommend for men that a minimum of 20 minutes be taken to calm down.
Next comes the use of 'repair phrases' that the Gottman's supply examples of.
So as you can see, assertive communication skills are dynamic and must be applicable to a huge number of situations and responses.
They can be learned, and relationships built using them, and relationships can be repaired when there are breakdowns in communications.
The basic assertiveness training skills are remaining committed in my head to using assertive communication skills, no matter the response they get, using reflective listening, maintaining my heart intelligence, and offering choice, if I am communication with a peer. If I am communicating i a hierarchical relationship, then I need to either listen to feedback, or offer it, and be prepared to accept consequences for delivering a command, or accepting one.
In all cases, awareness of my physiology gives me choices.
Michael S. Logan is a brain fitness expert, a counselor, a student of Chi Gong, and licensed one on one HeartMath provider. I enjoy the spiritual, the mythological, and psychological, and I am a late life father to Shane, 10, and Hannah Marie, 4, whose brains are so amazing. http://www.askmikethecounselor2.com
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Hello Mates,
I am an Indian Hindu-Male, 34, was married 4.5 years ago, have a son 3 years old, who was born in USA, and I have following points:
oMy wife (also Hindu) left me for her job in India after our son was born in USA (after 7 months of his birth). She is a Class -1 officer with Maharashtra Govt. (salary: Rs 7.5 Lacks + 4 - 7 Lacks under the table) she is very greedy!
oIt looks like she married under her parent's pressure, but was never interested. She is too close to her girl-friends. In USA you can't intimately touch anybody (in lieu of sexual harassment charges), but she will go an extra mile to hug all the girls when taking pictures (everytime). Even American White girls (my office mates) will feel little embarrassed. That is beyond friendliness!
oWe have been separated for last 2.5 years.
oShe is very very selfish, as she took all the gold and diamond jeweler with her when she returned to India and is not returning it back to me.
oShe compares me with Indian Waiters and Clearks all the time ( I have her email with proof), just to annoy me.
oWhen she was studying at IIT- N. Delhi, she was dating a guy and even after marriage they still meet and roam around holding hands. Apparently she calls him "Bahya/Big-Brother".
oShe recently bought MHADA flat in Powai, 1.5 years ago, but in recent past, when they increased their flat prices by 15 lacks more (LINK: http://www.indianexpress.com/news/buyers-miffed-as-mhada-hikes-price-of-powai-flats-by-43-/985889/), she is demanding that money from me, or else she says that she will file false 498-A charges against me and my widow mom (Ex-Army officers wife) and put us in jail. She is harassing us for 15 lacks now.
oI am currently unemployed after coming back to India, because of the economic slag/downturn.
QUESTION: I recently filed for Divorce 5 months ago, but with the current changes in laws which support only women's side, she is contesting it, in the court by saying that I have deserted her and "She wants to live with me happily". But the truth is that she wants to drain me financially before she wants to run away with her Ex-Boyfriend. The reason why I cant live with her anymore is because under her constant bikering/harassment, I feel like committing suicide. WHAT OPTIONS DO I HAVE?
Please help me! I don't want to die under pressure! Oh God please help me!
Rahul.
CHAPTER 19 LIFESTYLE MODIFICATION AND BEHAVIORAL COACHING:
* Figure 19.1 Stages of Change Model
* Know the stages of Change
* Be familiar with the initial session
* Effective Communication skills
* Goal setting- SMART Goals
* Cognitive Strategies
* Positive Self talk
* Exercise Imagery
STATES OF CHANGE
STAGE 1: PRECONTEMPLATION
* No intention of changing. Do not exercise and do not intend to start within 6 months. Education is best strategy with precontemplators.
STAGE 2: CONTEMPLATION
* Thinking about becoming more active in next 6 months. Listen to what contemplators need and support them any way that they can. Contemplators still need information.
STAGE 3: PREPARATION
* Exercise occasionally but are planning to begin exercising regularly next month. May have unrealistic expectations for the change they hope to achieve, oftentimes leads to high risk of disappointment and early dropout.
* Help clients clarify realistic goals and expectations, help clients maintain their beliefs in the importance of exercise, discuss programs that work best for different clients, consider clients' schedules, ask about previous successful experiences with exercise, avoid exercise that could lead to discomfort or injury, discuss building social support network.
STAGE 4: ACTION
* Started exercise, but not yet maintained behavior for 6 months. Continue to provide them with education. Work with their clients to develop steps for overcoming any barriers or disruptions.
STAGE 5: MAINTENANCE
* Maintained change for 6 months or more. Still tempted to return to old habits.
THE INITIAL SESSION
* 20 seconds to make a good first impression. Body language. Initial session building relationship.
* Discuss health concerns.
* Clarify fitness goals. Verbalize goals. Set SMART goals, specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and timely.
* Reviewing previous exercise experiences
* Finalizing program design. Have good sense of health concerns, fitness goals, and past positive and negative experiences.
* Help clients anticipate the process.
IMPORTANCE OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS
* Difference between success and failure in relationship between trainer and his or her client.
* Nonverbal and verbal communication - posture, body language, verbal must be clear to be understood correctly.
* Active listening - genuine interest in client's perspective and getting to know them. Pay attention, avoid distractions, look the speaker in the eye.
* Asking questions - ask open not close ended questions.
* Reflecting - Express the purported meaning of what you just heard. Make sure client is accurately understood.
* Summarizing - Draws all important points of conversation together and again allow clients to clarify either what they have said or how someone has interpreted what they have said.
* Affirmations show appreciation for clients and their strengths. Listen carefully to know what to affirm. Validate positive comments about their thoughts, plans, skills.
* Asking permission - ask permission to share information.
SMART GOALS
* Specific - clearly defined in such a way anyone could understand what the intended outcome is. Detailed description of what is to be accomplished.
* Measureable - Quantifiable. Establish a way to access the progress toward each goal. If goal cannot be measured a client cannot manage it.
* Attainable - Right mix of goals that are challenging, but not extreme.
* Realistic - Repesent objective toward which an individual is both willing and able to work.
* Timely - Always have a specific date of completion. Realistic but not too distant in the future.
COGNITIVE STRATEGIES
* Positive self-talk - Help clients become aware of their negative thought process. Help clients come up with list of positive thoughts they might use with regard to exercise. Train clients to notice negative thoughts, stop negative thoughts, and translate those into something positive.
* EXERCISE IMAGERY - PROCESS CREATED TO PRODUCE INTERNALIZED EXPERIENCES TO SUPPORT OR ENHANCE EXERCISE PARTICIPATION. Clients can imagine themselves approaching their activity with greater confidence. Visualize performing with greater relaxation and muscle control. Rehearse positive outcomes.
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MUST READ: Some women keep writing about wanting to hear the words "I love you" more often. Others write complaining they hear it too much! Just how much is enough?
There are times when women's emotionally-driven drama and antics really get on our nerves as men. There are also some things that appear to be dramatic because they are so irrational, but are in fact not dramatic at all, and things that you need to be aware of and address when necessary. This is some of the most important information ever presented in this newsletter, contains advice for both men and women, and if you miss part of it you can absolutely wreck your relationship with what you skipped over, so read this carefully and in its entirety and make sure you understand it. First, meet Tasha:
Hi David,
Can you tell me how to get my husband to stop being a needy little twerp? Every time his mouth opens, he says, "I love you." It's like a compulsion. He can't end a discussion, enter or leave a room, or hang up the phone without saying it. It's more like a greeting than a declaration of any kind of feeling. He's coming across to me as saying it just to get me to say it back to him. It's been happening for a month now, constantly since we went to my high school reunion (20 years) and I saw my high school boyfriend there (and his wife and pictures of their five children) and we talked for about 20 minutes and had a dance. He's making me nuts!
Please help,
Tasha
Tasha's problem was handled privately by a coaching session with her husband, in which I helped him realize that a 20-minute conversation to catch up on 20 years of absence and a dance, which didn't even turn out to be a slow, intimate dance, was nothing to worry about, but do you see her primary complaint? Too many "I love you's" equated to habit and insecurity, not an expression of love. Now for the other side of the coin, meet Carol:
Dear David,
I have read every newsletter you have ever written, and I have read your book as well and loved it. I had to learn to do many of the things in your book since I was taught a totally different way to handle relationships. I am sorry to say that I was one of these women that would let a man into her life and then totally turn it over to him to run because I wanted to be led. I learned that I was not letting them lead me, but was letting them run over me. Now I see just how wrong and how dangerous it was to me and to my future to let men run my life.
The reason I am writing this letter is because I want to know something and I felt like you would be the one to help me answer this one.
I know that my boyfriend loves and wants to be with me and that I am the only one in his life, but I still like to hear it from time to time. I know that sounds like I may be needy or insecure, but I'm sure you know all women like to know that both parties in the relationship they are in have the same feelings. I am sorry if that is wrong but that is how I feel.
Thank you for your time,
Carol
My reply:
Hi Carol, and thanks for writing. I'm going to point out something to you here, something that I know you've read in past editions but may have missed the significance of, and then I'm going to clue you and everyone else in on why this is the way that it is and how men should handle it.
First, I want to caution you and all women, for reasons you will fully understand in a moment, that while the words "I love you" are good for an emotional rush, they should never be trusted in and of themselves, period. Your knowledge of whether a man or any other person loves you should come from their actions; a man, especially a psychopathic predator, could put a bullet or a cudgel right between your eyes or open your throat from ear to ear while saying "I love you," but no man can keep up the act that creates the illusion of love for very long at all if it is indeed just an act. It doesn't take a lot of testing and there's no need for suspicion; simply check that his normal actions say that he loves you before accepting the words. For instance...
Does he beat the hell out of you and then say, "I'm sorry, Sweetheart! I really love you!" If he does, he's a lying sack of crap.
Does he drink up his paycheck, and when he tells you there's no money for groceries that week, say, "but I love you and everything will be okay"? No, he doesn't. He loves his bottle, not himself or you.
Does he work at his job, come home, and spend quality time with you (and the kids if you have them)? Does he make decisions that consider how they will affect you as a couple? Does he treat you with respect, as if he values your company and your input, instead of putting you down or even worse, whining about how he can't live without you? If so, listen when this guy says he loves you, even if he says it only silently through his actions, because he does. His actions prove it.
Take care, and keep in touch,
David
Now to the hard part: Why is it that even the most secure women, those who live in a relationship in which it is blatantly self-evident from a man's actions that he loves her deeply, constantly complain that they don't hear "I love you" enough?
Guys, I have to admit that this evaded me for a long time, and it wasn't until I learned how women communicate and about their socially-oriented nature that it made sense to me, and most of them are unaware of it as well, at least until it's pointed out to them. You should have seen their faces when I asked them about it; it was like a light coming on when it struck home for them. Ready?
Women need to hear this because they are biologically-driven to need to hear it, just like they need to hear a verbal commitment to a relationship after a couple of months of dating or they walk out on a perfectly good thing. It's part of the emotionally-driving biological mechanism that distinguishes their behavior, especially their socially-oriented nature and their communications methods and infrastructure, from ours.
They need to hear the words when they already know we love them because they are born communicators and also because they need that little romantic/dramatic lift that it creates when it "seals the deal." They also need to see that we can say it frequently enough without blurting it out every few minutes like some needy wuss who spouts it like a litany to hypnotize her into staying around. It's like their need to share and emotionally milk their problems with their girlfriends; irrational, involuntary, and potentially self-destructive, but nonetheless a fact of life and a need that must be fulfilled, one way or another, by somebody.
Now, how much is enough? Or too much?
That depends on the woman, but generally speaking, no woman I've interviewed, when asked how she felt about the frequency with which her man said he loved her, who was satisfied said any more than once or twice a day (once every day or two was average), and for those who were dissatisfied, their men were at the extremes, either pestering or boring them to death with it nearly every time they spoke or going many days or even weeks without saying it at all. And hearing it without some context that tells that he was really feeling it at the moment was often mentioned as bad, too.
Take heed here: You can say it too often, as well as not enough. Women bore easily, and with most things, less is more, but there has to be some, because none is unacceptable. If you have a healthy love relationship, there should be some intimate moment come along every day or two, or even twice a day sometimes, that makes you realize how much you love this woman. When that happens, that's when it's good to tell her, because during those intimate moments is when she'd really like to hear it, and the situation and your body language will confirm that you're feeling it, giving you credibility. It helps feed the emotions that she's feeling, and if it's honest, it's right. No act, no routine, no pressure - simply letting it come out when it's genuinely on your mind is likely to be just right.
Do NOT, under any circumstances, let "I love you" become a habit. We all hear so many people closing telephone conversations with it, as if it is some ritual greeting, and that's bad because it makes the experience so mundane and boring. If you're with somebody who has to hear it every time your mouth is open, that's a HUGE red flag, because it's not the emotion of love that she (or he) is feeling; it's that really ugly one: NEED, the kind that breeds and feeds dependence and insecurity, the leper's bell of a scarcity mentality at work and a high-maintenance dependent looking for someone to suck dry. And then you get to see the scarcity mentality's really evil twin, entitlement mentality, up close and personal as this person becomes more and more demanding.
If that's where you are, you're in big trouble, and you need to do a serious evaluation of your relationship. And if you're the one saying "I love you" too much as I've described because you want to hear it said back to you, you need to be doing something to develop some self-esteem, fast, or you are never going to find happiness, even briefly. There are several on our forum, http://forum.makingherhappy.com, who are going through this process, realizing that they do have value and have the right to recognize it, and watching their evolution is both educational and inspiring. You should join us and check it out.
Relationships are only complicated when you don't know enough about how they work, and/or about each other. Learning about them and each other doesn't have to be a matter of reading an encyclopedia of dry, technical, academically-oriented psychological theories and then trying to apply it without knowing whether the theories even hold water. I've seen those books - they almost destroyed my marriage before realizing that I was going to have to figure it out on my own -- and if you've been looking for answers for your relationship, you've likely seen them as well.
They didn't work for me, and indeed made things so much worse that I had to research and quite literally find enough answers to write my own book to have the improvement I needed. If those books worked for you, you wouldn't be looking here, either, would you?
There's a better answer, written in plain conversational English, that contains solid, tested explanations of how relationships really work, how women really think and speak, and what they really want, with examples and advice, and the best part is two-fold: you can afford it, and you can do what you find within it. Interested?
It's called "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," and you can download it at http://www.makingherhappy.com and be reading it in the next few minutes. Go head, do it now, because while all the achievers are reading this book, getting answers and putting them to work to better their life, the losers are sitting around questioning whether it will work for them and going further and further down that unhappiest of all roads, relationship boredom and crisis.
In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!
David Cunningham
"Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
