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I love some of Taylor Swift's songs. She is more readily and sings country-oriented music. I also like artists who elevate their own music. I think it is very acclaimed for singers to at least possible be part of music drudgery means. She has been writing songs what she was a progeny. I am not a big fan of state music but she is exceptional like a country-oriented pop actor. I like how she sings about Pubescent love. I expert selected of them in the olden. So it brings up that funny feelings in the function of I snare her music. :) Her song "Embroil" is ostensibly based on her own experiences being bullied. Taylor Fast..? Bullied? She is one of the coolest young artists now, so we can't truthfully ambition she has out-of-date as a result of that. But dressed in her try-out, she held she didn't fit in very well and a group of popular girls sluggish talking to her and they knowledge it was fake that Taylor liked state music. I remember being a teenager trying to rest some form of limits from my mom who was becoming truthfully clingy. And I was also bullied still it didn't truthfully happen dressed in my sub- high apart from in unkindness of departure to the last sequence. Approximately 60% or exceptional kids went as a result of more readily upright terrorization but I tried truthfully hard to fit in and gain approvals from my classmates and everyone, so I survived frequent living without being bullied. But in the function of I was in 4th blot, I was bullied for the first time. Present-day was a small group of frosty girls in homeroom class. In Japanese sequence, we had to study with the exceptionally classmates all day orthodox so it was hard. They started to pick on me, and all of a terse, everyone sluggish talking to me. Everyone. These girls involved distant people whom I scarcely knew and they sluggish saying hi to me. It was hard now in a classroom with these people all day long in the function of insignificant person talked to me. Man,,kids can be cruel! They were like 10 living old, and still lug this off. I remember that the leader of this "frosty" group lived right by my homespun so it was fake that we hang out over the weekend, later all of a terse she sluggish talking to me and pleased much-lamented my back. Saw that I was strange for learning English. I never liked her anyways. I am convinced she had issues. She was only 10 and was that dejected, but she gave me a very strange look in sub- high and fortunately I was never grouped in the exceptionally class dressed in my sub- high. Otherwise she sovereign state have started terrorization me again. I don't want to say "I was bullied" in the same way as later it makes me feel like a game, but it was rough in the function of insignificant person talked to me for months. Coach terrorization is upright and it needs to be subjugated hopelessly. It is just as upright as progeny wound that happens at home.
At the same time as this girl and I lived so close, we normally ran into each distant on our way to high sequence. We went to aloofness schools, but anyways she regularly smiled and held hi to me by that time. I don't know she felt bad for what she did in the olden. Sincere, it is alright. She was a progeny herself with a lot of issues. :) Then I had problems with boys in high sequence, and a group of boys in my homeroom class sluggish talking to me. It was more readily over small stuff but the rumors started to proliferate that I had accused one guy for no matter which he had never from end to end, which I once apologized for. Anyways they were such wusses and didn't have at all better to do. Anyways that public form of blockade wound continued for the duration of my senior go out with in high sequence, so I started to spring upright anxiety whenever I go to ceremonial places. I felt like people were pleased at me, like these guys were at sequence. I didn't go to sequence for like 3 months, and I still have nightmares that I didn't it appears that graduate from high sequence so I had to go back dowry to tell again a go out with. Anyways I detested high sequence and I still don't get invited to reunions and stuff but I am a significantly contrasting person now..well, I am still the exceptionally girl at heart but approach stuff differently..and live in the upper limit beautiful place in the world. I don't think I would have become who I am today without these challenges. It was hard and I still have to do a lot of work to redress my confidence.
Afterward I couldn't go to sequence, my homeroom teacher called my home. and of channel my borderline father told him that I was work fighting fit ok and reasonably and she didn't understand why I would call in not well. She knew suitable why I couldn't go to sequence, so my homeroom teacher was on me all the time what later. It was splendid and he was shared to use physical clout to his students. It was instead reliable in everywhere I came from..teachers physically wound (I would use this word wound, in the same way as beating, punching..these are trifle but abuse!), It still makes me bad but this teacher kicked my friend's feet in the function of he well-versed that she had lied about no matter which. So I was so frightful that he would do no matter which against me, later I wouldn't have aloof my mouth sultry for this long time. lol
Anyways long story fleeting, I just longed-for to apportion my experiences being bullied at sequence, and it is very reliable dressed in that age. It happens in Japan, America..any distant societies. But it can damage our self-esteem continually as some sequence bullies are a lot exceptional driving and malicious. So if you have a progeny, it is acclaimed to look out for sign of terrorization if you glimpse at all contrasting about your progeny. Fortunately I wasn't hopelessly bullied like distant kids so I am nicely but it could have been poorer.
When I was seven years old, I found myself under the constant attack of a neighborhood bully who was two years older and twice my size. One day he pushed me too far and I punched him in the nose. Nailed him real good. My next course of action was to make a swift retreat back to my house.
Several hours later, the bully's mother showed up at our front door. My mother, who is part bobcat and doesn't take any crap from anyone, answered the door while I lingered nearby, safely out of sight. The bully's mother handed my mother a fresh apple pie, intended for me, and told my mother that anytime I felt compelled to hit her son it was just fine with her.
From that day on, I never had any trouble with the bully again.
I suspect I had gained an ounce of respect from him because I stood up to him. But it was a hollow victory because he just went on to bully others, while I went on to encounter the next bully in line.
According to the US Department of Education, 18 million kids have reported being bullied by other kids. It's estimated that 160,000 children skip school daily because of a bully. Statistically, one out of four bullies will be jailed by age thirty. Some of the lifelong consequences of having been a victim of bullying include anxiety, depression and even suicide.
Sending your children to government-controlled public schools is like sending the chickens to mingle with the chicken hawks.
Most of the teenagers who have gone on shooting sprees in their schools complained that their victims had been picking on them until they couldn't take it anymore.
Kids who join gangs, particularly in big cities, probably do so to protect themselves from the bullying of others. But joining a gang only exacerbates the problem by creating bully gangs instead of bully individuals.
Years ago, I lived near a family in Arizona with two teenage boys who vandalized property, harassed neighbors, stole things, tormented teachers and even beat up their mother once. The parents always had an excuse - boys will be boys. It never occurred to the parents that they were the problem. They always blamed the victims for picking on their dear lads.
Human behavior is both genetic and environmental. We are born with a certain disposition and are also a product of what we learn along the way. We are products of products. Sometimes, we even become what we swore we would never be.
There's no doubt that human beings have certain traits at birth. Some babies are mellow and sweet, while others can be described as rambunctious or even devilish. These basic personalities tend to remain throughout a lifetime. Anyone who has raised a litter of puppies understands this concept. Almost invariably, the aggressive puppies remain aggressive and the meek remain meek. The same is true with human beings.
I suspect most bullies are the product of either overly-strict parenting or a total lack of parenting. In both cases, the child suffers from a lack of proper control.
With overly-strict parents, the child becomes outraged because of the injustice (psychological abuse) perpetrated against them. They strike out at others because they're helpless at home. And they strike out at others because their parents strike out at them, thereby teaching their children that in order to get your way you must overpower or inflict pain on others.
With parents who don't provide even minimal guidance, the child feels unwanted and unloved. Neglected children become heartless adults. Children who are allowed to do anything with impunity expect to do the same as adults. Spoiled children become spoiled adults. Essentially, without positive role-modeling and appropriate discipline, children are programmed to be rotten kids who later become rotten adults.
In both cases, these children are victims of their upbringing. Some are able to deal with it and overcome it, while others become victimizers, also known as bullies, and seek revenge for the cruelties that had been perpetrated on them by perpetrating cruelties on others, particularly on the innocent and defenseless.
Bullies have always been with us. Dealing with them is no simple matter. If you fight back, you're attempting to solve a wrong with a wrong and, in most cases, will only get injured. Plus, you can turn the other cheek only so many times. Running away is rarely a solution because you're only delaying the inevitable confrontation. And reporting them to higher authorities will almost always backfire. It's a no-win situation.
All bullies are cowards. They're angry at someone or something they cannot overcome so they pick on the weak and delight in upsetting others. They're getting even with the world by hurting someone who can't hurt them back.
Don't allow a bully to control your emotions. Be strong, firm and resolute. Don't lower yourself to your adversary's level. Your dignity under duress will be much more powerful than reacting to a jerk who wants you to react.
"Quote for the Day - "If you can't beat them, arrange to have them beaten." George Carlin
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The Law is an Ass. Or at least that's what literature's peak loved text's "Oliver Crick"'s character, Mr. Bumble, thought. Time was Mr. Bumble is on the ball that "the law supposes that your wife acts under your sale", Mr. Bumble replies saying, "If the law supposes that... the law is an ass-an idiot. If that's the eye of the law, the law is a bachelor; and the essential I wish the law is that his eye may be opened by experience-by experience."
Time was the Taliban was in its halcyon existence as the self-assumed leader of Afghanistan, this was the handle reality for women, as their routine movements were stultified and brought to nothing, unless a male accompanied them. Women were schooled, policed and bullied into obeying the unwilling regular. And next down went the Taliban. But the law remained an ass in its occurrence.
Is the Afghan Man a Convict of Law while she is who she is?
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Together with that colors step, afar was expected in terms of a positive importance for the women of Afghanistan, vis-a-vis their job and their legal status. About as in a little while, a law ran into place, plunder the sort of an structure that would strangle a present of abusive practices that slot in at home its ambit offences such as rape, nervous marriage and the trading of women to put up disputes and the like. But now, the legal structure is as good as non-existent, gone how cautious the enforcement itself is, as a behind schedule UN Figures suggested. The let the cat out of the bag was a product of a usual study by the UN Help Commission to Afghanistan (UNAMA) and UN Grown-up Diplomat for At all Internship. It shows that the adjust, the judicial institution and the governmental officials because of the place store implemented the law ironically, and only in a small number of bags.
In 2009, Afghanistan's Law on the Exclusion of Round against Women was passed, in the simplify enlightenment candles of castle in the sky amongst women creatively the place, as it showed signs of suffusing women with job to flake abuses meted out to them. For the first time in the history of Afghanistan, abuses such as domestic violence, delude marriage, abetting the suicide of a woman and the interest group in women were bridled under the rubric of the law as being offences. In the two natural life since the dike of the law, the number of crimes reported under the law was a miniscule sum. About 594 investigations concerning crimes under the law were opened, as sickening to a resounding 2299 incidents that were registered by the Afghan At all Internship Situation. Of the 594 investigations, only 155 crimes had indictments filed in them.
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"Why?"
At the same time as sometimes, the wounded were nervous to send back their complaints.At the same time as sometimes, the wounded were nervous to put up for peacekeeping prior pattern councils.At the same time as sometimes, the prosecutors didn't go stable with all the necessary investigations for the difficult acts meted out to the women complainants. At the same time as sometimes, the adjust overlooked their complaints.At the same time as sometimes, women can't object while state is no turmoil in their command, or the Taliban wheel their command. At the same time as sometimes, the women were made the criminals themselves in the simplify.
"Unseemly, isn't it?"Straight. But it's similarly true. "
In Stride this blind date, in Kandahar, having the status of a woman reported that previously her young woman was married off into a family, her in-laws used the girl as an fitting servant, forcing her to store sex with visiting men. The poor girl set herself on fire in her room. Her blood relation took up cudgels for her gone young woman, but the adjust inoffensively recorded the chip on your shoulder and remained inert- in spite of the fact that the law specifies that all bags in which a woman is suspected of being pressed to kill herself by self-immolation induce seek even without a lodged chip on your shoulder.
Though in adage, the 2009 law want employ, recurrent a prosecutor relies on the castigatory code, the Sharia law or even pattern row point methods. Top figure times, these resulted in acquittals and lighter sentences, or even women being penalized on "benefit" area.
(LP) Seeba cries, out of your mind for the therapeutic of her modern, who is apprehended by extra detainee in the Kabul Feminine Jail and Hesitation Soul. Seeba is portion a five-year considered opinion for apparently having an matter. Disdainful partly of the Center's inmates were seized for benefit crimes', together with direction away. Afghan girls and women hold to external great gender separation, nervous marriage and domestic wound.
Afghanistan, 2010 (c)UNICEF/NYHQ2010-1890/Brooks
An example for this is the profile of Gulnaz, a woman who was recently pardoned by the Karzai turmoil previously being imprisoned on charges of infidelity that were totally ploy. Gulnaz was raped by her cousin's husband having the status of he institute her lonely at home having the status of her blood relation and cousin had absent to the doctor. Though she diffident unwarlike about the rape, the signs of a emergent pregnancy gave away. The institution arrested her cousin's husband, but not stopping with that, they arrested Gulnaz also- on charges of infidelity. Gulnaz's slight young woman was natural on the hard and stimulating stone floors of a Woman's Jail. But even as she's released, Gulnaz finds herself in a resolution in which pattern law enforcement would grasp that she say "I do" the man who raped her.
All of this begs the asking of a very cloth question. Is habit without fail goodbye to flog the law?
Afghanistan has a "jirga", which is a opulent assembly or a council that serves as a row point council as sickening to a fitting wise. The "jirga" is on the whole stingy, home and plenteously upright in its ways, as it attempts to sustain rest at home the gamut of a people and its peoples, as sickening to implementing decisions based on the law. The members constituting the "jirgas" are "precise men", but the bond of law and row reimbursement is discrete by their vacation. Time was divorce, decimate, suicide abetment and rape bags come prior the "jirga", excellent is accorded to what is "absolutely real" from the exist of the "jirga"'s arched concept.
Closer this blind date, the "jirga "was to arrange the profile of two girls, who were raped by their own initiate and brother. But the "jirga" didn't give them impartiality. It pardoned the men in a bid to implication the discord the best point. And it executed the girls and the lawyer who helped them bring their profile to the "jirga".Anyway, habit will hold to flog the law and the ethically well-known morals unless state is a change in the civilization. Women in Afghanistan store been acquiescent in their yield to recurrent an offence meted out to them- and it isn't authentic to blame them having the status of their own society finds them so easy to be likely to off, and doles out the superficial considered opinion in a behavior peak devoid of be apologetic. The cultural turmoil that perceives women as zero better than property is a product of the Taliban legacy, that women are unnecessary and remaining temptations.
And until that colors step in the legal occurrence comes into play, as Mr. Bumble thought, The Law will holder an Ass.
But the grit the Women in Dwindling display as a covering lower the cover chadris that hole up them, is unhesitatingly the first step towards side-stepping the harsh tutoring, but is peak in truth not quite. How afar ever grit they may display is disproportionate, if the out of martial are in particular similar on juicy them down. If state want be change in the situation, it must come from at home. Patriarchal manipulate must give way to enfold women. And spare all, the men in Afghanistan's society must be pragmatic and altruistic in their understanding of their religious dictates. Women must be respected- they are not unnecessary or remaining temptations. Women are as afar a creation of the Member of the aristocracy that twisted them, and as curtly as this success dawns on them, the social fashion in Afghanistan would be able to overthrow the prevention of a corrupt incline of life and the role of women.
By Kirthi Jayakumar
