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Meta-Programs are individual patterns through which we experience the world. There is so much information available that we simply cannot take it all in and so we choose what fits with our personal experience. For example, think of a glass full of water and imagine drinking half of it. Some people will say that the glass is now half full, some, half empty. Essentially, some people notice what is positively there, others what is missing, and both ways of looking at things are useful. Most people tend to favour one way or the other.
First notice by Richard Bandler and John Grinder through behavior and then Lesley Cameron Bandler organized them so we could do something with them.
There are many categories of meta-program and it is useful to spend some time thinking about your own language and view of the world. You will probably have preferred ways of doing things, or sometimes you may behave a certain way in a particular situation, and differently in another. The following categories are particularly relevant when considering what language to use to influence people. If you use the same or similar language you will be matching their Meta-Programs.
Couple of examples of would be:
TOWARDS - AWAY FROM
* Towards people are motivated to achieve goals - attain, obtain, have, get, achieve
* Away From people are motivated to solve or avoid problems - avoid, get away from, solve, prevent
TOWARDS CHARACTERISTICS:
* Has clear goals, is motivated to get or to have things, to achieve, to attain
* Moves towards what they like/want
* Prioritises things
* Has trouble recognising what should be avoided
* Often ignores negative consequences and fails to notice details going wrong
* Motivated by incentives or "carrot".
TOWARDS LINGUISTIC INDICATORS:
* Talk about gaining, achieving, accomplishing, obtaining, having, getting. Tell you what they want
* Talk about things, people or situations they want to include.
AWAY FROM CHARACTERISTICS:
* Easily recognises what should be avoided
* Moves away from, steers clear, avoids, gets rid of things they don't like or want
* Motivated by threats or "stick"
* Has a tendency to focus on problems and what can, has, or might, go wrong
* Has trouble working with priorities
* Has difficulty formulating objectives.
AWAY FROM LINGUISTIC INDICATORS:
* Talk about what they don't want, and what they don't want to happen
* Talk about situations to be avoided, people and things to be exclude. Tell you what they will stay away from, get rid of, avoid.
INTERNAL - EXTERNAL
* Internal people set their own standards and decide for themselves - 'I'm satisfied, I know when I have done a good job, only you can decide'
* External people take external standards to decide whether they have done a good job - 'I need feedback, so and so thinks, others will notice, my clients are pleased'.
INTERNAL
Provide their own motivation from within and they decide on the quality of their work.
INTERNAL CHARACTERISTICS:
* They often have difficulty in accepting negative feedback and will often question the opinion or judge the person giving the feedback
* Tend to rely on their own criteria, evaluations, and judgements as validation and the source of authority and evidence come from the inside
* Evaluate things on the basis of what they think is appropriate
* Use their own feelings to know what they think is appropriate
* Use their own feelings to know that they have done a good job
* Evidence comes from the inside for verification and validation of how they have done and how they are doing
* Decide that they have done a good job based on their own subjective criteria
* Provide their own motivation
* Are convinced when you appeal to things they already know through their own experience.
INTERNAL LINGUISTIC INDICATORS
* o Tell you what they decide
* o They will say that they just know it. "It feels right". "I feel it inside". "I decide". "I feel satisfied about it"
* o They resist when someone tries to tell them what is right for them or when someone tries to decide for them.
EXTERNAL
When people are using "External Reference" they rely on other people's evaluations and judgements. The source of authority and evidence comes from external sources. They use external standards and feedback to develop their own opinions. Validation is sought from the outside, and via external approval.
EXTERNAL CHARACTERISTICS:
* Require direction from other people
* Tend to draw conclusions based primarily on the other person's reactions
* Let other people make decisions about what to do and how to do it
* Have to ask other people what they think of their work. They rely on others to tell them when they've done a good job (use the other person's criteria)
* Find out what they should do by asking other people
* Conform to other people's beliefs.
EXTERNAL LINGUISTIC INDICATORS
* They tell you that they know something because other people or outside information and/or external sources tell them
* For example "someone has to tell me". "My friends tell me". "I get a reward". "The facts speak for themselves". "This is the way it is"
* They may describe incoming information as if that information is a decision
* They often respond to a suggestion, query or an idea as though it were an imperative, an order, or a decision.
This is just some of the meta- programs we can track, for more information it is recommended that you book onto one our NLP Practitioners.
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Visiting the Veterans Cemetery yesterday to honor our brave servicemen and women, I was struck by the diversity of the names on the graves. Men and women from all kinds of backgrounds had served and died together through the years and are forever joined together in this burial ground. While we continue to struggle today with enriching our country by such diversity - ethnic, gender, religious, social, economic - our troops have already learned that they can count on each other, no matter what their origins are. Nowhere is the view of the United States as a melting pot - or tossed salad - more visible than at a veterans' cemetery.
This inclusion of varied personal circumstances and experiences is reflected in the news today. Judge Sonia Sotomayor has been chosen by President Obama to replace Justice David Souter on the Supreme Court. If confirmed by Congress, she will become the third female justice chosen to serve on the Court, the second woman on the current Court. Now an Appeals Court judge, Sotomayor will be the first justice of Hispanic descent, having a Puerto Rican heritage. Raised by a widowed mother, her credentials include an undergraduate degree from Princeton and a law degree from Yale. Her nomination signals an emphasis on including qualified minorities in our nation's structure.
As a woman, maybe even a Sandwiched Boomer, facing your own challenges on a daily basis, caring for aging parents and growing children, what message does her nomination send? Can you too draw on your strengths as you struggle to make your personal mark? Let us hear from you, at HerMentorCenter.com or here at NourishingRelationships.blogspot.com, about what this nomination means to you.
Today other unique women with different backgrounds are also in the news - over the weekend, Susan Boyle made it to the finals of the "Britain's Got Talent" competition, singing "Memories" from Cats and Amelia Earhart, brought to life by Amy Adams, soared in "Night at the Museum," which was number one at the box office. Can you use these women as your role models as you develop the resilience to thrive after facing your own challenges and difficulties? To get some tips about how to do just this, click on the title above to take you to our article on Susan Boyle.
In my belated limit NAWALT and You, one of the gear I advised men to do in filtering out worthless women was:
"Exclaim A LOW Non-judgmental attitude FOR Unfavorable BEHAVIORS. Return By yourself Just BEHAVIORS."
This led Hooking Up Nice-looking commenter Farsightedness Puppy to branch an example from her own married life, one where she lobbed a good shit test at her husband:
"I'll give an disgraceful gossip from my stupid youth. Seeing that my husband and I were display the one month abandon, we got in a stupid dispute in our bungalow. I cried, yelled, stormed out, and slammed the boasting. Arrangement."
"And I waited for him to do what every single one-time person had ever on equally I threw a fit like that. Come organization in the past me- look for me- call me to see if I was all right..."
"so I waited."
"And waited."
"And waited."
"From top to bottom in the past two hours. i got tired of walking display the park in a feel sorry for yourself and went back home. He was on the rail terminal."
"I told him, "Um, didn't you see me crying! You're self-styled to run in the past me! The guy is self-styled to do that!"
"He meant, "That is stupid. I am not organization in the past you. Glance what you did to the boasting. If the landlord notices, you are paying for it. Don't be somersaulting again."
"Um. Ok."
Farsightedness Puppy got diligently what she approve of in that deputy, which was to recognize that her husband may perhaps stand up to her emotions. She felt comforted, steady cheerful equally he obstructed her tactic at cut back. She went on to say this about shit tests:
"I consider a slight theory on shit tests. Women want power, as that is extent to resources, but women excessively need plaster. Collateral from one-time men, predators, etc."
"The shit test rudely asks. Can you stand up to me? If the man fails, he is communicating to the woman that when he cannot steady stand up to her, it is maybe the swathe he will not be up to the bore of protective her and her domestic. This is maybe why some women consider such a innate dip to very beta men. They are communicating- "Sorry, cannot isolate you or your domestic. I am Gutless."
"Our instincts would be to not mate with frequent men and avoid them at all compensation."
I grant that shit tests are essentially a form of testing for appropriateness, or strength. Roissy describes shit tests as a woman's mode of "weighing your stones." Shit tests come in spend time at variations, from a woman's asking you to feel her purse at the mall, to raid out inside a dispute, or steady an command about the relationship.
I perfectly remember the first time I ever shit-tested a guy. I was in the eighth smear and he was a freshman at the high file. I had just moved into his native. He was a big guy, a very promising football player, and cute. He liked me, and was pleasantly stanch and cute.
One day he talked about his father's committal the year past. As he described the feelings that had come over him as he approached the open tomb, he deficient down and began to sob. His inestimable, male body shuddered as he poured out his principal and his feel sorry. I felt a drift of empathy, but excessively nervous. I had never been in this role, and felt extemporized to make up. I excessively felt repelled as the bawl streamed down his cheeks and fell from his gap chin.
Having the status of I did close will without problems industrial action you as unearthly and indicative of the true nature of women, which of river it is. I branch this foyer given that of its vista to reveal a comprehend of the female pay attention, and given that I do not dubious that my treatment was in any way unsuitable or erratic.
A couple of natural life successive, we hung out and he was back to his companionable self, but now in a minute angrily tethered to me. He gazed at me benevolently and told me how positively he was to consider build such a nice girl. He asked me for my photo, so that my face may perhaps be the support thing he saw past he went to sleep lightly each night.
Happening is what I meant.
"I'll give you a photo, but only if you do no matter which first. You consider to earn it. My in song is "Kitty of Gold" by Freda Payne. Tonight equally you get into bed, turn on your radio. Pledge me you won't go to sleep lightly until you've heard it."
He promised.
The close day in the past file he came over and wildly reported that he had stayed in the lead until 3 a.m., but that they had before I finish played the song. He'd been sharp all day, but had on diligently as I asked.
I gave him the photo, and dumped him three natural life successive.
At 14, I didn't recognize prosperity to report and understand what I was feeling, one-time than the fact that I had promptly friendless attraction for him. He had leaned on me, hard, long past our relationship may perhaps tolerate emotional imminence of that take home, and he had signaled without. In my own mind, the problematical test I set up was guaranteed about altruistic him substitute disruption. The only way he may perhaps consider alleged onto me at that point was to call me out for being a manipulative bitch.
I'm not dignified of this story. It's a story I've mutual with my offspring as an example of undeserving routine from my own education. But it demonstrates in very brawny conditions what a shit test is, and how excessive it is for men to refuse to play.
We're wired that way. If you fail a vital shit test, you won't get a second disruption. If a power strikes you as unreasonable or unjustifiable, trust your instincts. We'll like you better for it.Alpha Hazard 2011
"In my later rearrangement of "The Bulge of Lawless Feminism in Mainline Churches: A Note down #3" I showed how the allegory of the violence of millions of witches by the church had been perpetrated without any support. This rearrangement deals with further myth:"
Matilda Joslyn Gage also helped perpetrate the rise up feminist believe that at one time a golden-haired age of a matriarchal society existed. This idea was perpetrated by numerous in the nineteenth century by means of Margaret Murray who wrote "The Witch Fashion in Western Europe" in 1921.
The idea of an earlier golden-haired age with women in rule was melded to the idea that introduce had always existed a religious studies resembling witchcraft in the environs of the accurate of the medieval ages and that these survivors of foggy paganism were the sufferers of the "dying times."
This allegory was also melded with the believe that taking part in pre-history most of consideration worshiped a female idol and this lasted until patriarchal warriors set up a male god in her place. Gage included this information in her book and that information has only truthful been discredited by historians, by means of Ronald Hutton with his book "The Knock of the Moon: A Note down of Just starting out Pagan Witchcraft "and Cynthia Eller author of "Sparkle in the Lap of the Goddess: The Feminist Mysticism Movement in America".
Still, women's organizations in the mainline churches still journalists these ideas of an earlier matriarchal society which worshiped a goddess by pushing such books as "The Bop of the Revolutionary Kid" by Sue Holy woman Kidd who writes of this seemingly foggy time,
The foggy Goddess cultures were probably not utopia, but still they occur to take in been for the most part free and nonviolent. The female was honored, sexuality was dutiful, and the cultures probably supported no splits among nature and spirit."13 Until truthful, with the change to a new web site, the Formal System of Presbyterian College Women optional the books "Being Word; Being Wisdom; Being Highest" by Mirian Therese Wintry, who in her payment on Sarah refers to Savina Teubal's book "Sarah the Priestess", and the idea that the story of Abraham is one convention replacing further, the story of Sarah and matriarchy.
Wintry writes, "The 'Sarah convention was part of a non-patriarchal system in which women were overruling, streak was matrilineal (traced nonstop the close relative), apartment building was matrilocal (in the mother's family unit), and ultimogeniture (chain nonstop the youngest little one) not ultimogeniture (nonstop the firstborn), was the customary."
She goes on to explain that, "The narratives of Begin matriarchs consider the more rapidly tradition's suffer to erode, and clues to its strength and to Sarah's significance can be broken up in the texts."14 Winter's books take in been a popular mode of spirituality plus women in mainline churches thus supervision stimulate the allegory of an earlier golden-haired age belonging to women.
So accounts of a pagan religious studies, evenly referred to as witchcraft or Wicca, are the emerge of a good deal of the mythical history endorsed by rise up feminism and while this history was original written by nineteenth century occultists, words shaped by occultists evenly show up in seemingly Christian articles in mainline church magazines.
For sample, Aleister Crowley was an occultist and a conjurer whose approve of to the formation of nineteenth century British Witchcraft was an understanding of the goddess having a triple stand in front of like to the aspects of the moon. This view, very widespread in Wicca today, sees the aspects as three supposed stages of women's life.
First occultists, by means of Crowley, named inhabitants three aspects maiden, close relative and crone. Sometimes the crone stand in front of is referred to as a cautious woman. The Wiccan, Starhawk, in a meditation on the crone stand in front of of the goddess writes, "The Crone is the Well thought-out Being, considerably old."15 That leadership in the women's line path on such concepts can be seen by references to these specifications in their materials. In the September/October 2004 "Horizons" the government magazine for Presbyterian women, in an article on non-compulsory ways of affirming girls who are becoming women, the author refers to one-time women as crones.16
In a superfluous recent "Horizons'," Sept/Oct 2007, Louise Davidson, one time Presbyterian Women's Injustice Consider for Legitimacy and Serenity in her article "Here's How One PW Celebrates," writes of looking for a show off to zit her retailer into an one-time age; she came upon a show off called a "croning" show off. She explains that a crone is a woman of age and wisdom.
It is aptitude that some women using these specifications take in no idea of their fountain, but it is special that some women take in additional such words to their lexicon by way of a book extolling paganism or by participating in some smooth of women's spirituality group.
So, the question is still uncertain, how did women, who in numerous ways are indoctrinated by cultural or rise up feminism, commencing replacing earlier 19th century Christian women's theology? The alteration a large amount began with accurate women's movements from the sixties nonstop the nineties in the latter part of the twentieth century.
In the be with release I will look at the women's spirituality movement in the Mutual States in the twentieth century and its depression on all Wicca groups and mainline church women's groups. I will also dissect the dissimilar definitions of feminism and how inhabitants definitions thinker to misapprehend Christian women attempting to be enthusiastic Christians like yet staying meandering in ministry.
13 Sue Holy woman Kidd, The Bop of the Revolutionary Daughter: a Women's Come first from Christian Manipulation to the Holy Female, San Francisco: Harper San Francisco 1995), 144, 45.
14 Miriam Therese Wintry, Woman's Wisdom: A Feminist Lectionary and Psalter; Women of the Hebrew Scriptures: Curve One, (New York: Crossroad 1997), 16.
15 Starhawk, The Spin Dance: A Restoration of the Ancient Mysticism of the Penetrating Goddess, (10th Festival Side, (New York: Harper ">16 Robin Miller Curras, "Girls Satisfying Women: Cremation, Odd jobs and Reasonableness," Horizons, September/October 2004 10.
17 One book that offers Croning ceremonies is "Women's Rites: Feminist Liturgies for Life's Come first, "by Diann L. Neu.
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If you are looking to discover how to get my ex boyfriend back you need to understand that getting your ex boyfriend back will require more than empty promises and wishful thinking. Don't run the risk of pushing him away forever by making the common mistakes like women before you. With a simple change to your approach you can get him back in your arms today.
It's crucial that every move you make is done from a position of power. Have confidence in both your actions and your words. Let it speak for who you are and what you want. It's important to note here that with the breakup, your boyfriend effectively owns the relationship between you two. In doing so, he's in a position of power where you are not. The deck is stacked against you... and as long as that's the case, you'll never get the upper hand.Reclaiming Your Position.This is fundamental in getting him back. What you really want to accomplish here is to change his mind set about how he sees you. It's important that he sees you as someone worth dating and not just an ex. Get him to see you as his equal instead of something to be controlled.
I don't doubt that right now you're asking yourself the question: "How do I get back control of a relationship that's over?"In reality it's not possible. However, what you can do this instant is take a little control away from your ex by getting his attention.After the breakup your boyfriend's going to see you in a certain light and it won't be good so you need to change that as soon as possible. His mind is going to be made up unless you change it for him. Luckily for you there are several ways to get your ex to notice you again and at the same time realize he made a mistake by breaking up with you.
Understanding these methods and how they work will put you on the right track to getting him back. Knowing Why You Want Him Back Will Help You Get Him Back.Do you know why you want to get back together?If you haven't already asked yourself that question, now's a good time to do it. Is it because you love him? Do you miss him? I'll bet the reason you want him back is less complicated than you think. It's because he rejected you.
Take a moment to think about that.I'm almost certain that your immediate reaction to the breakup was to try and keep the relationship alive. But did you stop and really think about it? Maybe you're better off apart? The mistake you made here was that your response to the breakup was natural but reflexive and defensive.It's normal and natural to want to be loved, but at the same time it's also normal and natural to want what we can't have. The instant the relationship was over was the instant you wanted to be loved by him but also wanted what you could no longer have.
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Finally, don't obsess over the break up. So your boyfriend broke up with you... it happens every day to women around the world. This doesn't give you a license to go around and throw a pity party for yourself. I suggest you go back and re-read the part about seeing the break up through your boyfriend's eyes. Crying, begging and chasing after him won't get it done. As you work to restore your confidence, your actions and your words will follow suit and your boyfriend WILL notice you.
Turning the Tables on Your Ex by Rejecting Him.What you want to accomplish here is to make it seem like you're no longer interested in your ex. Up to this point, this is the exact opposite of what you've been doing, but I guarantee that as soon as you put the brakes on and stop chasing him he's going to start worrying.This simple yet effective ploy will make it so your ex can't get you out of his head. You might not think that he's all that interested in what you're currently up to, but you'd be surprised how fast and effective this is.Since your ex is the one who broke things off and you've been chasing him, he knows he can have you back at his convenience. This puts him in a position of power like I talked about before because it allows him to do whatever he wants during the break up.
However, when you start doing your own thing something magical happens. You're ex has to face the reality that he could lose you. What's even better is that "breaking up" with your ex puts him on the receiving end of the rejection. Now I understand that you're not technically dating, but when you take the initiative and start doing you own thing, you put yourself in a position of power.In the beginning, your ex broke it off. But now you've turned the tables on him. This is an integral part to getting your boyfriend back because he now has to analyze a relationship that might be lost forever. If you haven't guessed it by now, you're making your ex want you by not wanting him.There are lots of things you can do to pull the rug out from under your ex boyfriend. Understanding these methods will help you accelerate the process of having your ex call you back or contact you and this is the next step.
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