tips for attraction that actually DEFY
what is commonly "accepted knowledge".
And I'll prove it, too.
The first thing is that attraction is NOT
an "absolute" thing that exists in a vacuum,
but rather is affected by TONS of factors.
What humans DESIRE, in ALL things, depends
on MANY things that are TOTALLY made-up.
Cults, for example, have transformed highly
educated people into believing that their
souls are about to be taken to a comet to a
higher plane of existence and as such the
followers all committed suicide with a sense
of peace and pleasure.
In the 1960's oral sex was in many circles considered
a bigger deal than intercourse, and more taboo. A
couple of years ago, Britney kissing Madonna made
headlines, it was something that one wouldn't DREAM
would happen on mainstream tv.
Now those things are a joke, it would
never make the news.
In Africa, there are places where women put plates
in their lips and are considered more attractive
because of it.
In other places, if a woman does NOT have a
mustache, she must PAINT one on to look
more attractive.
Do you see what I'm saying?
This attraction stuff is massively influenced by
culture, and yet BIOLOGY is also a massive factor.
So for example, the woman with the big plate in
her lip if she acts desperate, will seem less
attractive even to those who normally would be
attracted to it.
Her behavior will affect her perceived level of worth.
Once you start to realize just how FLEXIBLE
this idea of attraction is, you actually have
made the FIRST step toward something
massive: Since attraction is NOT carved
in stone, YOU can USE this to your
advantage, by taking advantage of all
the VARIABLES that are actually
WITHIN your control.
And there are a LOT of variables that are
under your control, if you are willing to
LEARN the skills that you need to control
those variables.
And of course, it helps if you learn these
skills from someone who knows what they
are talking about.
So, for example, studies have shown it's hard
to dislike someone who has made you laugh.
So if you approach a woman who is a total
stranger, but get her laughing, she is now
MORE OPEN to being "picked up' by you.
And if you convey the attractive qualities
about yourself SIMULTANEOUSLY in your
humor, you are getting her not only RECEPTIVE
but also ATTRACTED.
But it's important to realize what effective
humor actually IS.
A lot of people think that humor is related mostly
to two things that don't seem to belong together,
but somehow do belong, or vice versa. In other
words, the incongruence, the theory goes, creates
a discomfort which is then relieved through laughter.
WRONG.
This is NOT what triggers laughter.
What triggers laughter is the SAME thing that
triggers ALL emotions on one level or another,
and that is SELFISHNESS.
The more we GAIN, the better we FEEL.
This is why the guy who suddenly finds out he won
the lottery starts laughing his head off.
Is this "funny"?
To HIM, it is!
It's better than funny, it's ECSTATIC, it's
ecstatic laughter.
There's a famous joke that people like to
use as an example of the "pacing" theory
of humor, where you have three examples,
or three individuals, and each one has their
own perspective, action, and the final one
is the "funny" one.
So for example, three guys land on an island.
They are captured by cannibals.
The cannibals tell each guy privately that he must
go his own separate way and find ten of some fruit
and return with it.
So the first guy comes back with ten apples.
The cannibals tell him he must put all ten in his
arse without making a face. After the first one,
the guy grimaces and they tell him they will kill
him.
The second guy then returns with ten cherries.
He is told to do the same with all ten. He begins
and is on the ninth one when he starts laughing.
In heaven, the first guy asks the second guy,
"Why did you start laughing, you were almost
free!"
The second guy says "I saw the third dude returning
with Pineapples."
What makes this funny is not so much the pacing,
the fact he is the third one, or that it's
incongruent, but MOST OF ALL it's the fact
that from the SECOND GUY'S perspective, he
is SOOO LUCKY and SOO MUCH AHEAD of the
POOR BASTARD who is with the pineapples!
He is in the SUPERIOR position.
And since we see the visual from his perspective
as he says it, WE experience his emotion of
superiority, and we laugh.
And I'm here to tell you that it's ALL about
SUPERIORITY, EVERY emotion, every
shade of every emotion. This is why the
greatest acts of kindness come from you
when you feel MASSIVELY BLESSED
and you feel VERY "RICH" IN THE MOST
IMPORTANT SENSE AND VERY
HIGH UP ALREADY.
And it's also why the worst nasty behavior
comes from people who feel very LOW
and INFERIOR.
So, the key with effective humor, especially
since attraction is about feeling excellent
and conveying excellence and abundance
and superiority, (not "you're a loser, I'm
superior but rather "I have abundance,
excellence, in SPADES, and have a lot
to GIVE and am not needy or desperate")
is to highlight how YOU are this person.
AND, you must then, for attraction, ALSO
confirm HER worth to you.
This is known as CONFIRMING FEEDBACK.
So, when a guy with massive value, confirms
HER value, it makes HER FEEL SUPERIOR
AND EXCELLENT AND BLESSED as well.
In the entire field of "seduction" nobody has
talked about this. I know, because I was
inside of it, for years. All I heard was endless
talk about NEGATIVELY slamming women's egos,
memorized routines, or just "being confident",
OR slogans of "be manly" without explaining the
real HOW and WHY.
What it IS about is EFFECTIVELY giving a
woman confirming feedback about her own
value, but in order to do this, you must first
come across as someone who is desirable.
The problem is that most guys will say
"I want her to like me for who I am" but
if you believe you really have the value,
then it makes sense to learn the skills
and the insights to COMMUNICATE that value.
So for example, how strongly do think you show
your belief in your value if a woman doesn't
JUMP to do cartwheels for you right away,
and you act HURT or DISAPPOINTED or you get
angry?
It's amazing, I know that right now Arnold
Schwarzenegger is going through a hard time,
and people can come to all kinds of conclusions.
But let's for a second just examine the facts.
The facts are, this guy wasn't only looking
and acting like a winner when things were
GOOD for him.
In fact, if you ever check out his early days,
and you see his facial reaction to when he
LOST his first bodybuilding contest, you
will see ZERO look of disappointment in his
face even in the HEAT OF THE IMMEDIATE MOMENT
of seeing that some other guy won the contest,
a contest that takes gruelling months if not
years of training and dieting.
By the way, he never lost again, after that.
The test is not how one reacts when all is
great, but how one reacts when all is NOT
so great.
This is the same guy that took a name nobody
could pronounce and made it a household name.
The same guy that took a sport that was considered
"freaky" and helped make it a part of popular culture.
Oh yeah, and his behavior with women, from
day one, was FUN and DIRECT and not worrying
about their reactions to him.
What's also interesting is that not a single
woman complained about him until he ran
for governor. In other words, women loved
him, and it was all politics that tried to
defeat him.
And his reaction to all that stuff at the time?
He reacted PERFECTLY.
He said "Yeah, I did some stuff with women
that I regret".
BOOM, over.
He didn't act defensive.
He didn't act worried.
He just acknowledged it, and moved right on
to winning two more elections.
So I'm not saying the guy is a saint or perfect.
And nobody is perfect.
But I AM saying that this behavior WORKS.
If a woman doesn't jump up and down
to your approach, that's the PERFECT
chance to SHOW just how awesome you are,
by the way you REACT.
How strongly do you think you show your
belief in your value if you take the
words she said and spin them around in a way
that interprets her words as a compliment to you
and you are totally congruent with it?
So if a woman says something to you like
"I almost never date guys who live uptown"
and you say, "You know, I never date girls
who live downtown, this way I avoid the
psychos" it's a lot different than saying
"ohhh but it's only a short distance".
Saying "it's only a short distance implies that
your value is beneath hers, and so therefore
you are trying to EASE THE DISCOMFORT
FOR A PERSON WHO IS ACCEPTING
A LESSER VALUE.
But if you are the superior value, then there IS
no discomfort for her, in fact, she would even
be willing to EMBRACE with PLEASURE
some discomfort to get the HIGHER value,
which is you.
And, as you get better at this skill, you'll
instinctively say things like like "Oh, you
never date guys who live uptown because
they're so sexy that you end up staying
the whole night and then in the morning
it's a pain getting back home."
And of course, on TOP of the words, is the
tonality in which it's all being said. Your
voice is like the DNA to your thoughts
about yourself, your value, etc, and women
can read this DNA with billion per cent
accuracy.
With total honesty, I can tell you that all this
is the TIP of the ICEBERG of what I want to
show you. I know a lot of people may SAY
things like that, but I have a feeling you can
tell that in this case, it's actually the TRUTH.
You can MASSIVELY IMPROVE your life with
women, if you are willing to LEARN and are
willing to PRACTICE. It doesn't have to take
forever, but it does take commitment. 99% of
men will NOT do this, they will NOT undertake
this challenge.
I'd like to SHOW you how it all works in your
interactions with women - from walking right up
to her to getting her home to keeping her wild
for you long term.
And the best way I can do that is through
my WARRIOR WITHIN program. For around a
decade now, I've been obsessed with pushing
the envelope regarding what actually works
to successfully approach a woman, to then
attract this woman, and to then smoothly
progress the interaction to an intimate,
physical level that is mutually rewarding,
and then retain that passion as well.
Warrior Within is my ADVANCED program
that builds upon the material in my
book "Get A Great Girl".
Warrior Within is at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/warrior.html
And if you haven't yet downloaded my book,
'Get A Great Girl', then do that now at:
http://getagreatgirl.com/Book.html
Have a great weekend!
Cheers,
Michael Marks
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