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One of the qualities that has made Ken Burns into a multi-Emmy Award-winning documentarian is his fascination with stories about people and events, and the fact that he doesn't limit himself when it comes to picking the subject matter for his films. Rather than focusing on topics that he knows, he prefers to delve into the unknown. As a result, his projects are diverse: "The Civil War, Baseball, Jazz, The War, The National Parks: America's Best Idea, Prohibition, The Central Park Five" and upcoming on PBS on April 15 is "The Address."
"The Address" tells the story of the Greenwood School, a small institute in Putney, Vermont, where each year the students -- bright, talented young men with learning differences and learning disabilities -- are encouraged to memorize and recite the Gettysburg Address. In its exploration of the Greenwood School, the film also unlocks the history, context and importance of President Abraham Lincoln's most powerful speech.
Then later this year, Burns will take an in-depth look at the relationship between Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt in a seven-part, 14-hour series entitled "The Roosevelts: An Intimate History." One of the topics the series will delve into is how their love and marriage survived an extra-marital affair. If you think you've seen the movie, Burns is here to tell you that wasn't the real story.
One of the key factors in obtaining all the details that make his films such special meditations on America is Burns' ability to connect to his subjects. He says one element that is essential in so doing -- and is important to all relationships -- is the ability to be a good listener.
"People want to be heard," the twice-married father of three tells eHarmony. "People want to feel like they are somebody and not a wholly-owned subsidiary of somebody else, so listening is a hugely important thing. It's good as a filmmaker, but it's obviously good as a husband and a father and a friend."
In this interview, Burns also talks about the most touching love story he has ever come across that dates back to the Civil War, what marriage has taught him, why he thinks relationships haven't changed over the years and more.
EH: HOW HAS THE GETTYSBURG ADDRESS, WHICH WAS PANNED AT THE TIME, BECOME THE MOST BELOVED SPEECH IN AMERICAN HISTORY?
KEN BURNS: You know it's interesting. It's gone through many cycles where, initially, it wasn't as well received, or it didn't have the [place in] history that we now recognize that it should have, and that comes in large part because it's short, concise and speaks directly to the central themes of American life. It's essentially the Declaration of Independence 2.0. The original Declaration said all men are created equal, but Thomas Jefferson, who wrote it, owned other human beings. [In making this speech], Lincoln was dedicating a cemetery to the great Civil War that was fought over the issue of slavery. So he was doubling down on the Declaration and saying that we really do believe that all men are created equal. Our operating system ever since has been that. When the first anniversary of 9/11 came, that's what we listened to, the Gettysburg Address. We thought those words were medicine.
EH: WHAT DO YOU THINK LINCOLN WOULD HAVE THOUGHT OF TODAY'S POLITICAL CLIMATE?
KB: I think he would have recognized a lot of it. When he delivered the Gettysburg Address, a Chicago paper - this is his home state of Illinois - said the cheek of every American must tingle with shame as he reads the silly, flat, dish-watery utterances of the man who has to be pointed out to intelligent foreigners as the President of the United States. That sounds like a classic, partisan, political thing and we've had this since the beginning of the Republic. Now, it's just that we have new platforms and new media gets amplified. Our populace learns less and less about their history, so it's harder to differentiate, and since we think that all we have to do is live in an all-consuming and, thereby, forgettable present, we're unaware of the fact that, as the Bible says, there's nothing new under the sun. [Ecclesiates 1:9 What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun.]
EH: IN THE WORK YOU'VE DONE, IS THERE A LOVE STORY THAT STANDS OUT TO YOU OR AN ASTOUNDING EXAMPLE OF WHAT REAL LOVE IS?
KB: Of course. First of all, there's one love story, which is mine, of my country. That's a good one, but the one that I think you're looking for is the one from the Civil War series. The end of the first episode has a letter from a Rhode Island volunteer named Sullivan Ballou back to his wife in Smithfield, Rhode Island. Her name was Sarah, and he describes in one letter -- I think it's the most beautiful love letter I've ever come across in my life -- love at many different levels: love of country, love of government - something you never hear today - love of cause, love of family, love of children, love of wife, but also love of the lover. He imagines that he will die and that his breath will be the breeze that cools her cheek. You can't read it without crying. You can't hear it without crying, and he did die a week later at the first battle of Bull Run, the first major battle of the Civil War. That letter is probably what made the Civil War series. I think that every man wishes he could say those words to the woman he loves, and, I think, every woman wishes her man could say those things to her.
EH: THE FACT THAT IT WAS PRESERVED FROM MORE THAN 100 YEARS AGO...
KB: I'm wearing a wedding ring and the inscription inside of it says "love multiplies." I think it's the only absolutely certain calculus I have about the way things work. I think that because the letter survived, or copies of the letter survived and people passed it around, it has that effect, just as a good gesture sometimes turns into two gestures, which turns into four, which turns into eight and suddenly things are better. I think that this is the formula of the universe that love multiplies.
EH: YOU MENTIONED YOUR LOVE FOR COUNTRY. WAS THAT AN INFLUENCE FROM YOUR PARENTS OR DEVELOPED FROM EVERYTHING YOU'VE EXPERIENCED?
KB: I think it's been an ongoing evolution. I was certainly aware of history all my life. I was certainly aware of the spectacular history of the United States. I then learned the complicated history of the United States. I grew up in the '50s and '60s and went to college in the '70s and started my business in the '70s, and have been going ever since. So I've seen a lot of water under the bridge, the historical bridge, but I agree with Lincoln and his address to Congress in 1862 when he said: We are the last, best hope of earth. My films have been very complicated looks at many different aspects of our country without them being whitewashed, or sanitized, or a kind of Madison Avenue version of that past. It's been critical. It's been tough, but it still celebrates the glories of the United States. I'm very proud of that love affair.
EH: A LOT OF YOUR FILMS COVER PAST TIMES IN HISTORY AND EXPERIENCES DURING THOSE TIMES. DO YOU THINK THINGS LIKE RELATIONSHIPS ARE MORE COMPLICATED THESE DAYS BASED ON ALL YOU'VE LEARNED?
KB: I'll go back to Ecclesiastes and say there's nothing new under the sun, which is a very poetic way of saying that human nature never changes. You know there are people in history who like to think there are cycles. I don't believe that's true. There are those who like to quote the phrase from George Santayana: People who cannot remember their past are condemned to repeat it. I don't think that's true either. I think just human nature is the same, and so, I think, people lived and loved as fully 10,000 years ago as they do today -- perhaps even more so, because we weren't distracted by so many things that today make us all sort of isolated, separated, individual free agents, but they really had to participate out of necessity in figuring out how to get along. Relationships have always been complicated. Love has always been complicated, hard and required work and attention and diligence for as long as there have been human beings. The investigation into the past doesn't just shed light on important historical events and quotes, but it also shows you how human behavior is so similar to how we are now.
I've just finished a series on the history of the Roosevelts in which there is an extraordinarily complicated relationship between Franklin and Eleanor, because it's blasted by distrust and by an extra-marital affair, but it's also one of the most complexly beautiful relationships I've ever come across that endured that betrayal.
EH: WE SAW THE MOVIE, RIGHT?
KB: The movie was complete fiction. FDR was surrounded by people, many adoring women and men all his life, but a lot of it had to do with [the fact that] he couldn't move and as his wife, in part reaction to the betrayal, set out for a political life of her own, so he found himself alone and often was surrounded by adoring females, but I don't think he had a relationship with any one of them. I think he had a relationship with his wife, who was his most important advisor and closest partner, and so it makes it a very complicated and utterly modern type of story that also you can find antecedents of well into ancient classical history.
EH: WHAT IS THE DRIVING FORCE BEHIND THE CHOICE OF SUBJECT MATTER FOR YOUR FILMS? IS IT PERSONAL INTEREST THAT YOU HAVE, OR THINGS THAT YOU THINK HAVEN'T BEEN TALKED ABOUT ENOUGH?
KB: It's always personal interest. So it means that some story grabs me. I don't make films about things I know about. I make films about things I want to know about. Rather than tell you what you should know, a kind of homework, I'd rather share with you the process of discovery. The most satisfying thing about being a filmmaker is how many people come up to me to say that film that they just saw of mine, a subject that they thought they knew, they had no idea how little they knew, or how excited they were to learn so many new things about, whether it was the "Dust Bowl, The Central Park Five," or the big series like "The Civil War, The War, Baseball, Jazz," or "The National Parks."
I like that because that's my process of discovery, as well. So it's just that I'm drawn to something. It's the chemistry of friendship in a way, the chemistry of love. You fall in love with a subject and you're drawn to it and that's what you focus on.
EH: SO WHAT DO YOU LOVE ABOUT YOUR LIFE AND YOUR WORK RIGHT NOW?
KB: Just about everything. There's no differentiation between life and work. Life is work. Work is life. Family and friends and associates, professional associates, sort of blend together, which I really, really like. There's no clock-punching or slavery to the weekly cycle. Monday doesn't come with dread. Friday isn't a day to be looked forward to. I work every day of my life. My oldest daughter and my son-in-law work with me on films. My office is in my house area. The editing room is not too far away. I do a lot of travel, and I meet other people who I feel a similarity with. I feel like I've got the best job in the country.
EH: WHAT HAS MARRIAGE TAUGHT YOU?
KB: About compromise. Yeah. George Will in our film on Thomas Jefferson was talking about democracy as the politics of the half loaf. You never get everything and, I think, the most important thing I learned was articulated best by my best friend, David. He said the secret to a good marriage is not making the other person wrong. It's a hard thing to do.
KEN BURNS' "THE ADDRESS" WILL AIR ON APRIL 15 AT 9 P.M. ON PBS. FOLLOW HIM ON TWITTER AND FACEBOOK.
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So Saturday night, I very hung out at Favorable Bar. It had been a long time. Cause, what time about 45 account, I was itching to go or wide open talking to people and not stand generally and get intoxicated. That did not go over to well like MB had his eye on some chick and was con his bruting model bit and my a long way away associates were happy with drinking and grabbing chicks to come talk to them which works so Cause.
Aggravated and not devoted, I just started talking to this girl serving taking into account us.
Me: Hi, I'm (still don't attach a new repute). What's your name?
BNewYork: I'm BNewYork.
Me: Not to be faulted bracelets. They look Median Eastern.
BNewYork: Actually. I got them equally I was in Israel.
Me: A friend just back from hand over. She brought back trinkets go out of business to your bracelets.
She goes into special about her outing and rear home New York, but she's from Jersey (the internal of the establishment) and we go into an all Jersey convo since having a couple of munchies. I made touch to add in a lot of kino (occupy touches, hip bumps, high fives, tour grabs) like experience has ready me equally you get into this type of efficient rapport building hand over tends to be a peak to which you attach crossed into the friend zone without realizing it.
BNewYork: Shit, wherever are my friends?
Me: (Shrugs) (All shit she about to perception off)
BNewYork: Receive with me to find them. (she grabs my undertake and drags me knock down)
Me: (Isolate!)
BNewYork: In attendance, they are. (She energy to them) (They continue to talk to the guys they are with)
Me: (I request BNewYork to me and kiss her)
We make out, make out some in excess of, and in excess of. We find a screened-off area, order a couple munchies and make out some in excess of. As well as her friends come by, intros all the chubby, and I get BNewYork number and they set out.
I twig what I did untruthful. I stumped a break like her friends were caught up, but I did not opening sudden. I was too stumped up in making out with her. I got her number and we talked today. It going to be unusual to see how I can get us back to the same level wherever at on Saturday.
Love Spells
THE LOST LOVE SPELLS
Dear Friends,
Is there a special person whom you love like no other? Are you sure about this "true" love is a once in a lifetime occurrence? and it will never happen again never ?
In life, a person is truly blessed to come across a soul mate, someone we can relate to, spend endless hours with - talking, laughing, loving Unfortunately, sometimes dissension surfaces and a crack occurs, causing an unpleasant parting of the ways.
Soon, we plummet into a bottomless pit causing loneliness, regret, misery. What was previously joy and happiness are now replaced with indescribable sadness and unhappiness that seemingly will last forever. We start thinking to end every thing. Joy, Happiness, Love these all become meaning less to us and the result :- A broken heart, failure in Love.
In some cases the rift can be repaired. But what if the other person is too angry, too stubborn, too blind to recognize how much they appreciate you, rely upon you, love you? And what if you have tried everything to no avail? And you fret and agonize that the wounds will never heal, that the split may be permanent? And If your one-and-only true love is living somewhere else and you have come to the end of the line, you may want to consider one last option: We believe there are unseen, powerful forces (the divine powers or positive powers of faith) in our midst that await our call and are prepared to do our bidding - to exert influences that are beyond our comprehension. And neither time, nor distance, nor place seem to deter these forces from attaining positive results.
DO YOU TRULY WANT THIS PERSON BACK AT ALL COSTS?
Don't be a passive victim. This is your time to take the bull by the horns and do something proactive. There are definite things you can do to affect your loved one's subconscious mind. You can ask a powerful psychic to summon these powerful forces and pray them on your behalf and make spiritual contact with this very special person whose companionship and love you desperately seek.
WILL THIS LOST LOVE SPELL WORK FOR YOU?
Once the spell is cast, the seeds of reconciliation, the seeds of hope, the seeds of a wonderful, long-lasting relationship will be planted and according to your feelings, emotions, faith and will to reunion with that person, the opportunity of a reunification is only a matter of time !
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A Counterfeit OF THIS Sum up APPEARED IN "THE AGE", JANUARY 26, 2013.
If a single word may well sum up the first decade of David O. Russell's filmmaking career, it would be "cheek". This quality was maximum distinct in his drink of joke subject-matter: mother-son incest ("Defeat the Simulate"), the Split War ("Three Kings"), the meaning of life ("I Core Huckabees"). But as a enduring of setbacks, Russell has emerged moderately chastened. His 2010 re-emergence "The Opponent "had his overexcited humour and love of goofball characters, but these virtues were wrapped in a Oscar-friendly distribute - a true story about a family of battling underdogs, with an permission pleasing above what is usual.
Based on a 2008 unique by Matthew Razor-sharp, "Silver Linings Playbook"goes forward movement down the self-same footprints. Pat Solitano (Bradley Cooper) is the latest of Russell's quixotic heroes: a former barter teacher discharged from a mental homewards eight months as a impolite incident led to a scenario of bipolar dignity. Live in with his parents (Jacki Weaver and Robert de Niro) in the Philadelphia bounds, Pat focuses on winning back his not speaking husband by making himself into a better person principal exercise and reading. The weird is that his everlasting positive thinking is itself a character of craze, making it impossible to say anywhere the cure begins and the malignant cells grass off. A turning point comes for instance Pat meets the fair and square habitual Tiffany (Jennifer Lawrence) a young widow with a promiscuous beforehand and an erratic temper; as he calmly rejects her proposal of sex, the pair form a rash but in concert profitable friendship.
While the clean has its hokey elements, it's muddy how far Russell believes in them. We're thought to want Pat to fix himself, but maximum of the pastime efficiency stems from his excited behaviour - and from the chaos that ensues for instance diverse jabbering personalities are overflowing into the self-same panorama. Russell's unique, syncopated rhythms are felt not only in the rat-a-tat verbal communication but in the way the camera sweeps on both sides of a room, or in the like greased lightning shortened close-up information - such as a cop's let, or the crucifix declare Tiffany's neck - that are used to commit to memory Pat's darting consider.
Cooper gives his best performance, mighty and modulating his ridiculous mannerisms - unblinking repute, wolfish grin, hectoring monotonal matter - till they add up to a character far on top likeable than the smug jock he commonly plays. To the role of Tiffany, Lawrence brings a throaty articulate, a attractively enlarged look and an repeatedly enigmatic demeanour: in her strongest panorama, she recounts her sexual exploits to Pat, doling out succulent information one by one and opinion tentatively as his eyes sheer up. If she registers less vigorously than Cooper, it's in all probability having the status of the script gives her less to work with - and having the status of she still looks like a teenager, for instance the role appears to sing your own praises been conceived fundamental for a woman in her late twenties or ancient. Why did Tiffany link so young, and what was her relationship with her husband honestly like? No answers are supplied: Russell is just about distinctively strange in the part she plays in Pat's curative purify, not the extreme way solid.
Russell's best films - such as "Huckabees"or "Flirting In the midst of Catastrophe "- seemed accurately invested in the idea of non-conformity, with every expression of "solid" behaviour open to question. To some degree, this is true in the field of as well. It's optional that Pat's approve has led him to clear-cut insights - and if all the characters eventually order an phobic side, this is not proper a bad affair. It's dismaying, all the self-same, to see mental illness used as the "hook" for a Hollywood romantic comedy: a good one, but regular all the way to the optimistic extremity. Perhaps Russell's next project - a 1970s con-man drama briefly splendid "American Bullshit "- will give him a chance to let his panache run free.
Plenty of people have given me advice. And just like passively reading a book taking their advice like a grain of salt won't get you anywhere.
If you have that pickup artist spirit in you. Don't go back to being that lame excuse for life that cannot approach a girl. Approach at least 5 girls a week to keep your momentum, to keep your belief that when youy hit on a girl, when you tak to a stranger that there can actually be nice people out there. Don't forget things that made it effortless to approach a girl.
For example when my motives were "I had to find out if you're as gorgeous on the inside as you are on the inside" or "my goal was to make your day" it made it much easier.
So let's revisit
- a fillipino dude told me that you should not look "too eager" when approaching a woman
- a girl told me that I should not be so clingy. And after I get a girls number don't text her for 5 days.
-her other advice is that girls are stupid and less shallow then men in general and some girls would even date a bum on the street.
..I just wanted to thank that girl for giving me hope. I was "lucky" to meet her and have her heal my negative attitude and for that I am grateful. I offered her advice back in hopes to give her a new perspective on things with her boyfriend.
Sent from my BlackBerry(R) phone powered by Koodo Mobile(R).
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Guys who are in the modern dating game are more than familiar with what are affectionately known as tests. While they may be the bane of your dating life, they are still a necessary evil at least in the mind of many women. Have you experienced the test yet? If so how did you do? Would you like to know how to get past this line of defense every time? Stick around, and be prepared to be amazed!
WHY?
The first thing on your agenda is understanding why women tend to administer these tests. What is her goal or what does she hope to accomplish? The answer is really fairly simple; she is attempting to weed out the deadbeats who are coming on to her. Of course, the exact motivation will vary a bit depending on the test administrator, but you can bet she is looking to protect herself from disappointment at the very least. Women want to know you are the real deal and not some douche who will mess with her world. She is testing for quality, for example:
Are you are real man?
Do you go after what you want, do you have drive?
Are you just after "one" thing?
Can you be trusted?
Are you masculine?
TESTS
Resist the temptation to resent the tests; after all, if she is testing you she is thinking you could be dating material. If a woman has already determined she would never date you, there is no point in conducting any tests, bad or otherwise!
So what do these tests look like? Well, they can be questions or statements, but both are geared to determining who you are as a man. For example:
You are only after one thing- she wants to know if you are just looking to get lucky and if you are trustworthy. A possible response could be: "How did you know I needed the number of your Pilates instructor!" This absurdifies her statement and lets her know you are not worried about her tests and are on to her game.
You are not my type- she is pushing you away and something about you must definitely be her type! With this kind of test you may be best served by agreeing then making an absurd comment such as- "Wow, we at least have that in common, I guess we should cancel the wedding arrangements"
I bet you say that to all the girls- she wants to be different and not just a pick up, but that does not mean you should stroke her ego. Instead, lean over and whisper seductively "but on you its working!" You have called her on the test and escalated sexual tension in one fell swoop.
Why are you talking to me? - This is a girl who is tough; she is constantly approached by men and is attempting to scare off the weakest links. Respond with something like "you looked interesting from across the room, so I figured I would find out if your personality matched your looks"
TEST OUT
Can you ever become a guy who never has to test again? Possibly, marriage usually does the trick quite nicely! Seriously, though you can at least get to the point where tests are fewer and further between. One way to successfully accomplish this goal is to become the type of person who does not need one. You do this by living your life purpose and enjoying your masculinity. Women want to feel secure and free to be feminine, which is something they cannot do with weak willed men. It will be your job to let your masculinity, self-confidence and purposeful life show women you have already passed the test!
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Not far off curve of that, I'm troubled. At all girl thoughts that she'll be THE ONE to brook the bad boy--but it seldom happens.
The best you can vision for is to keep him interested for a hardly visible while--and the best way to do that is to feint you're NOT. Wait you're mature plenty to do that?How to make a playboy who's flirting with you fall in love with you?
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So there's this thing everyone's been talking about lately. Feminism. You've probably heard of it. It's possible that you even care a bit. Sadly, Hollywood still has a way to go before it ticks all the gender equality boxes that, as far as I'm concerned, simply shouldn't be a thing in this day and age.
Before you roll your eyes, I'm not getting my Wonder Woman knickers in a twist in an epic rant over the treatment of women in comic books and movies. Instead, I want to apply a bit of theory to the issue of gender bias in film.
THE TEST
For those who haven't heard of it, the Bechdel Test was first introduced in Alison Bechdel's comic strip 'Dykes to Watch Out For' in 1985 and asks whether a film can satisfy the following three requirements:
1. It has to have at least two named women in it...
2. Who talk to each other...
3. About something besides a man.
Simple enough, you might think, loads of movies meet that criteria. But you'd be wrong. Most, in fact, don't. In 2009, Entertainment Weekly's Mark Harris stated that if passing the test were mandatory, it would have jeopardised half of that year's Best Picture nominees at the Oscars and would cut the length of San Diego Comic-Con from five days to 45 minutes.
Shocking, isn't it?
Of course, the test isn't perfect. A film can tick all the boxes and remain sexist, while others fail simply because the premise doesn't allow for the parameters. And that's fine. But you'd be surprised at how many movies ought to pass but don't. Unfortunately, superhero movies are among the worst culprits.
Christopher Nolan's Dark Knight trilogy, for example, fails. Sam Raimi's Spider-Man trilogy fails. With the exception of Zack Snyder's Man of Steel, every Superman movie ever fails. I'm not saying these films are sexist. Far from it. And while I could go off on a tangent about how we need to see a super heroine in the lead on the big screen, it would be beside my point. (We do, though). Every one of these movies has a strong, feisty, even kick-ass leading lady. But in each one of them, that leading lady's purpose is all about the man. And fellas, as much as we love you, we really do have other things to be getting on with.
It would be impossible to trawl through every superhero movie ever made looking for examples to prove my point, so for the purposes of this piece I'm turning to the Marvel Cinematic Universe.
THE IRON MAN SERIES
Since the release of Iron Man in 2008, Marvel Studios has dominated the box office, bringing many of our favourite superhero stories to life in spectacular fashion. While I love Tony Stark as much as the next geek, I'm not so keen on his position on gender equality. There are two named women in the first Iron Man film and they talk to each other. But their entire conversation is some kind of clich'ed pissing contest over which of them has a claim of ownership over Mr Stark. Right on, sisters.
Thankfully, Iron Man 2 and Iron Man 3 both get a pass - just.
Those Other Marvel Heroes
Both Thor and Thor: The Dark World can wear their Bechdel badges with pride, meeting all three criteria of the test.
2008's The Incredible Hulk fails miserably (in more ways than one, but I'm not going there), as does Captain America: The First Avenger. One might argue that the latter is simply channelling the spirit of the time in which it was set, but it's an argument that I'd politely suggest is utter boohockey. This is a film that makes a point of its strong, accomplished heroine. Agent Peggy Carter's appeal is both in her brains and metaphorical balls. Yes she's a woman in a man's world but there are others there too... granted, they don't have names, but they exist.
For instance, there's that blonde one what snogs Steve (Private Lorraine, according to IMDB), prompting a bit of burgeoning jealousy in Ms Carter. Would an entirely justifiable stern word from senior officer to subordinate have been so difficult to squeeze into the script? I admit, it would've been a man-centric conversation, but at least it would've been something. And it would have made sense.
Avengers Assemble! (Or not)
For me, the biggest disappointment comes from Joss Whedon's Avengers Assemble. Whether Whedon enjoys being hailed as geekdom's greatest feminist I have no idea, but it is a burden of his own creation, so frankly I don't care.
This movie features three named females - one lead in Scarlett Johansson's Natasha Romanov and two secondary characters; Agent Maria Hill and the ubiquitous Pepper Potts. Not once do any of these women speak to each other. At points, Hill and Romanov are in the same room and they don't even look at one another. Seriously, there's time for Stark and Coulson to chat about a cellist but S.H.I.E.L.D colleagues Hill and Romanov don't so much as acknowledge each other? It's ridiculous. I'm not after a deep and meaningful conversation about extraterrestrial terrorism or anything but how hard would it have been to pop in a water cooler moment for the sake of equality? Or, you know, a brief strategical natter - is that really too much to expect?
Like I said, this test isn't perfect. Gender bias is just one issue on a long list of complaints about Hollywood's output. But this is 2013. We're way beyond suffrage and it'd be nice to come out of the cinema with gripes about direction and dialogue instead of bitching about the blatant misrepresentation of my gender. As Marvel heads into Phase 2, with four films mostly directed and penned by men, I'm hoping each of them has the rules above written on a Post-It somewhere to serve as a reminder - little girls need heroes to look up to, too.
Read the rest of Geek Syndicate issue #8 and give the boys some love while you're at it - they deserve it.
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