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My favorite motivational poem, which projects the true spirit of the unconquerable alpha male, who does takes both action and full responsibility for his actions, and how the confident attitude it projects will make you absolutely ooze attraction. AND! An announcement about the makingherhappy.com forum: It's been up for a year now, and for the foreseeable future, it's going to remain free.
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I also have another special treat for you, my favorite motivational poem of all time. Many of you may have read it, but I've met few who ever gave it serious study and consideration. And that's a shame, when you see what it holds for you that could help a man, relationship and marriage.
Most people remember and even quote that last line or two, but few remember their origin and have never really studied the poem, trying to live the part of the main character, and exploring and adopting the attitude expressed. Read it carefully, once for understanding of what the character is saying, and then a second time to try to feel what they are feeling, and we'll discuss it and how it relates to your relationship and building attraction afterward.
Invictus
By W.E. Henley
Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods there be
For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced or cried aloud;
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody but unbowed.
Beyond this vale of doubt and fear
Looms but the terror of the Shade
And, yet, the passing of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.
It matters not how straight the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll
I am the Master of my Fate,
I am the Captain of my Soul.
So let's dig into this, deeply, and see what Henley knew about being a man and how that might help you get your life and relationship or marriage back on track. To make sure you get the context, "Invictus" is "soliloquy," defined in "The American Heritage Dictionary" as "A dramatic or literary form of discourse in which a character reveals his or her thoughts when alone or unaware of the presence of other characters." He's not trying to impress anyone; he's alone and thinking or speaking only to himself.
Speaking of gender, we don't know whether the character is a man or woman, but everyone assumes it is a man when they read it, because the feeling generated is that typical of an alpha male - independent, strong, railing against the storm so to speak. He is in complete darkness, according to the first paragraph, possibly in a prison or dungeon cell, or in an apartment or bedroom, utterly alone and celebrating his own sense of self and character. In the second stanza, he says that no matter what has happened to him, he's taken it and moved on.
He's been beaten up, but not beaten down, and certainly not beaten into submission. In the third stanza, rather reminiscent of Psalm 23 of the Christian Bible ("vale of doubt and fear" is identical allegory to "valley of the shadow of death, the terror of the Shade" being the angel of death or god of the underworld, as in the first stanza we see that Henley's character is religious, but not Christian, as his "gods" are unidentified and existence questioned - "whatever gods there be"), he says that life is uncertain, and the afterlife possibly more so, yet he has no concern for that.
He goes on in the fourth saying that it matters not how he is judged ("how straight the gate" is an allusion to several different versions of Heaven and Hell, and "the scroll" is the judgment of his life) because he lived his life making his own choices, and is perfectly prepared to accept the consequences of those choices. His world and his choices are simply, utterly, and relentlessly, his own.
Why? Is it ego? Conceit? Hardly. Ego and conceit are not signs of confidence, but of a lack ther, the leper's bell of someone lacking self-esteem and trying to fake it. This character has simply chosen to command his own life, to do with it the best he can, to accept all challenges to his life and well-being, and if he is to lose a battle, he will regroup, re-engage, and ultimately win the war.
What image does this paint for you? A sniveling, craven little wuss huddled in a corner of a dark room? I should say, "not just no, but hell no!" A man standing straight, tall, shoulders back, feet at shoulder width, head held high, ready for action; he may not own the world, but he certainly commands what part of it is around him. So blatantly heroic an image that it's not hard for a cape whipping in the breeze to enter the picture if you're not careful.
Why do I bother going through all of this about a poem? Wake up, gentlemen! This is the guy every woman wants her partner to be! At the very least, it is the image of him that she wants to hold, strong, confident, moving through the world with a purpose that is his own, in command (not CONTROL, mind you!) and in demand. Do you want to know one of the best-kept secrets in all of existence? Every one of us is born this way!
Really! Look at small children. They try to do things assuming that they will succeed. They don't jump off the back of the couch and land face-first on the floor because they're stupid; it's because they've not yet learned that there are things that are impossible. Unfortunately, as they grow older, they learn a lot more than the simple physics of gravity, inertia, and motion that would keep them from jumping off the couch and busting their face again.
It is failure that they (we!) learn, and which plagues us all for the rest of our lives if we let it. The operational phrase there is "if we let it." It's a choice. Failure of any kind is a choice, a choice to be defeated instead of a choice to learn all we can, give something our best effort, and if it doesn't work out, to acknowledge that it required more resources - whether time, money, energy, relationships, or whatever - than we were able to muster, and to make course corrections so that we continue the journey toward something desirable. No matter what the outcome of any endeavor, it is only a failure if we choose to declare it so, and choose to be a loser or victim instead of a contender and survivor. And as long as a man truly gives something his best effort, he cannot fail; the only failure is to fail to rationally address an issue and meet it with whatever he can reasonably muster.
Do you realize that humans are the only species on Earth with the power of volitional choice - the power to think and choose everything, instead of simply growing to the point of being able to survive and then having all development stop? Intellect allows us to reach a point of being able to survive, then surpass that point and flourish, improving our standard of living, and possibly that of others around us and in generations to come. We are the top of the food chain for that reason and none other. Contrary to popular belief, being human isn't something for which one should apologize (..."I can't help it. I'm only human..."), it's something to which one should aspire! (Be a REAL man! Or be a REAL Woman! I think, therefore I succeed!)
Those whom women find the most attractive are those who have aspired to be and finally became supremely human men, the alpha male - the strong, confident male, able to make logical decisions, formulate successful plans, and carry them out with all the confidence in the world that he can do just that, who looks not at his feet, but at the horizon, and onward to the next world he is to master. Be that man; it's your choice, and her dream. Make both of you happy. If you have to, print this poem and put it where you can read it while you shave every morning. (Yes, EVERY morning! Real men have more self-respect than to run around with two-day old stubble on their face and "bed hair" trying to look like a thug or a flake, no matter what might be "in style"!) Memorize it, and recite it several times throughout the day. Get it done.
It's time to take charge, and make the world your own. She'll notice. It's not an act. It's a matter of first learning how things work and what the best behavior is, then toning down your bad behavior while enhancing the good behavior, and then adding to the good behavior with other traits that you can enjoy having and she will enjoy seeing. There's a full explanation of all of this and an effective training seminar to help you put it all to work in a natural, stress-free manner, in "THE Man's Guide to Great Relationships and Marriage," so download it now at http://www.makingherhappy.com. Go ahead, do it now, and start living the "unconquered" life, because life is too short to live it otherwise.
In the meantime, live well, be well, and have a wonderful day!
David Cunningham "Being a man is something to which one should aspire, not something for which he should apologize." --David Cunningham
ok for misconseptions not Build him but do tackle to possess him favorably fall in love.
(im a female)
To make it easier im plugging in names
Further up the ladder brother- Tom
Younger Brother- Jerry
Me and Jerry Have a meal been good friends while october. We had phone up conversation similar to everynight. We all had physical attraction but zero more than than friends ever came to mind. In addition to i met Tom. Me and tom hit it off paddle we messed expression and similar to fell in love but he had a girlfriend and i had a boy i meet to go out with *Bob*. So we arranged to just let tackle get loud. But me and jerry were still good friends at this time. Me and bob went out and underprivileged up and i type of forgot all about tom and i scheme he forgot about me. One day sparks flew in the company of me and jerry and we complete up messing expression. TOm prepare out and go so blazing. And while subsequently i got slightly anarchic i got into the unseemly typ of crownd and had sort of a bad rep. Alot of drunken mistakes. Tom and i are on ok sense now. Jerry and i are slightly good friends better than ever. Hes the type that hes so attractive he doesnt want to stability down with a girl friend right now and likewise hes heard about my rep. And Im like a guy friend to him and me and him are ';partners in crime';. It seems its 30 precent my rep and 70 percent of his committment issues that in the way.Of predetermine ive fallen truly for him. And i ad infinitum play expression n tell him i like him and b like JK and he laughs it off or says u caution you love me. And i caution we would be perfect together. And today i told him how i feel over script and he didnt solution at all. and 4 hours later he texted me about zero to do with my script nearer. I want to caution how to make him fall in love. ive asked all of my friends but near answeres are blue suitability and i need it from some one who doesnt caution us very well maybe that will help. BUT I In all honesty Require HELP! =[
O btw. I havent had a slip in over 5 months ive cleaned up ALOT. And im dutiful on him im very sure he knows it. Link advice; make him fall in love
you can't make people fall in love with you all you can do is keep your point the finger at crossed,possess a positive attitude and try to make yourself attractive, and fun to be with the rest is up to your kismet of life. * Why do short dogs state
Relationship Quotes for Your Enjoyment, here are some relationship quotes of note:
"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."
-Oprah Winfrey
"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take." -Anthony Robbins
"Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same." -Flavia Weedn
"The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that's why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they've really done is they've shifted their relationship with time." - Caroline Myss
"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." - Mark Twain
"Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with" ~ Gillian Anderson
"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." - Aristotle
"The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller
"Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl - no superior alternative has yet been found." - Winston Churchill
"It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations." - Kahlin Gibran
"To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person." - Eric Fromm
"Man is a knot into which relationships are tied." ~Antoine de Saint-Exup'ery
"You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete." ~ Keith Sweat
"Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others." ~ Stephen R. Covey
"Love doesn't just sit there like a stone; it has to be made - like bread, remade all the time, made new." - Ursula LeGuin
"Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it's really no fun lying to 'em anymore." -Norm from Cheers
There's a broad collection of relationship quotes for you.
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Reflection Jodie on this is incredible; it's the dust role for her. It's so piercing and so emotional. She just jumped right into it and is so professional.
Erika Christensen
We can't forget what happened on May 4th, 1970, when four students gave up their lives the same as they had the American amble right of compliant moan. They gave up their lives. And to sing that song in that spot on that golden jubilee was very emotional for us.
Graham Nash
We expert teachers command that motivation and emotional inspiration are what matter.
Donald Norman
We essential become aware with our emotional household: we essential see our feelings as they plainly are, not as we convey they are. This breaks their hypnotic and hurtful hold on us.
Vernon Howard
We were discussing the population and the fact that young men in the company of the Greeks at that time were idiots and inexpert, so the men had emotional and relaxed relationships with members of their own sex.
Marion Zimmer Bradley
We're not that far from being able to place images, memoirs, and emotional states right away into the be careful.
Douglas Trumbull
Closely the themes for me were and stop sex and love and dejection and beating - the stuff that make us and candid us, blueprint and drivel, how we cause and head off and the emotional context that surrounds these comings and goings.
Thomas Hang up
Closely, silence and gender like yours people don't think of me; so when they find me emotional and helpful of real openness, they're bewildered.
Faye Dunaway
Like I am weird in now is the background. Record without people. I wouldn't be bewildered if finally gift are no people in my pictures. It is so emotional.
Annie Leibovitz
Afterward a person responds passionately to intelligent stuff, or passionately only to directly emotional stuff - I find that an full of character break surrounded by face-to-face and some other writers and fans.
Elizabeth Moon
Afterward I got back I paper face-to-face being very emotional about the time dead in Rwanda in a way that I hadn't been able to or formal face-to-face to be when we were gift.
Hugh Dancy
Afterward I heard Aretha, I may perhaps feel her emotional relief so evidently. It came from down deep fashionable. That's what I required to do.
Whitney Houston
Afterward I went on to corral my introduction book, Act Between Warm Intelligence, I required to make a hard pouch that the best performers were fill people strong in these skills.
Daniel Goleman
Afterward it comes to yielding emotional support or adore, I'm a tiny enigmatic and habituated to that.
Patricia Heaton
Afterward my body is strong, I feel stronger inside. I feel exceptional helpful of exploit emotional situations. Frequently I'm exceptional of a inside-out person, but this was a great pouch of me from the shell in.
Mariska Hargitay
Afterward people are atrocious, they make emotional decisions.
John Mellencamp
Afterward the strength of emotional depend on subsides, a man who is in the attempt of structure will search for logical senses in favour of the conception which he finds in himself.
Bertrand Russell
Afterward the music and the characters are immaculately immediate, the opera develops an emotional handle that movies and plays cannot match.
Bruce Beresford
Where Joe was exceptional verbal and emotional though Waste disposal site was very shy. But, both of them executed great strategy and both of them demanded a lot of their panel.
Franco Harris
Whether we like it or not, men and women are not the incredibly in nature, individual, emotions and emotional responses.
Paul Getty
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Also, be jump to sum my article on creating your dating profile to see what I think "hardship" go into it!
1. APOLOGIZING
One request some men display is to pop in apologies for the fact that they won't be exquisite for every woman that views their profile. This doesn't forever come off restore as an compensation, but at whatever time you think about it this way the pattern can be easy to blemish. Here's an example that one reader had:
I can't nail down you that we in advance display a lot in notorious - but if you read on and find out we do - you hardship letter me!
Frankly, he's saying "we possibly will not be a exquisite match but contents keep reading!" No one can nail down that qualities will display a lot in notorious with them. A lot examples of "apologizing" in your profile pop in things like condemnatory comments about yourself, and charming comments like "I can't swallow I'm achievement this" slog far too close to a damaging profile than I like.
In the example prior, he's pointing out whatever thing that is leaving to be true for close to every situation. You can't nail down you'll display a lot in notorious with strangers who read your profile, so why point it out? It would quite be better to say whatever thing like:
Jubilant YOU Stopped BY Such as I Discover THAT YOU AND I In the past Surround A TON IN Expected. WE'RE Undo, WE'RE Apiece ON THIS Region AND, Birthright LET'S BE Dulled, WE'RE Apiece Intimidating.
That is "way" manager a few and positive. Is it besides totally unsupportable? Guaranteed it is! But if you're leaving to make a bludgeon that you can't support, why not make it positive?
2. Details
Lists are anywhere profiles lose so knowingly. The saving way is that close to everybody writes flat lists in their dating profile, by means of women, which finances that this bad oddness doesn't stand out too poorly. At a standstill, that finances that at whatever time people don't go with neglected whatever thing they like and sooner make whatever thing manager personal, it stands out in a very positive way.
For example, here's what a list in a dating profile possibly will look like:
I'm a laid back guy who enjoys eating time with friends and meeting new people. I love seasonal, cruising, the outdoors, performance movies, leaving to clubs, exploring new places and dining out. My hobbies pop in sports, movies, subject parks, the water's edge and effectively doesn't matter what fun.
When I reviewed this reader's profile, I not compulsory the as soon as as better options than "neglected" things:
* Chat about how you like to meet new people, not just that you like to. When was the embrace time you did whatever thing social? To the same extent was that? Did doesn't matter what fun or thrilling happen? I think you would do better if you told gentle stories about yourself than make fun of mostly.
* Slightly of leaving defeat a list of things you like to do, pick two of them and talk about them in occurrence. To the same extent was your number one drop in on of all time? When did you find out you loved cruising? Any crazy stories from them? Consistently get sick? Play a part some log about not just the "what" but the "why".
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Slightly of talking about 15 things you like, pick a few and effectively fall zealous into folks areas. Humanity people see that you're a real person, maybe gang they'd like to manage time with.
3. Entreating
Comment from being out-right damaging, prayerful is the selling I loathe to see upper limit perfectly in profiles. Entreating often takes the form of asking gang to do whatever thing they in advance blab they hardship do or leaving out of your way to label the person reading your profile is knowingly better than you and you don't pro their time.
The upper limit notorious example of this is anywhere a guy uses his profile to ask the woman reading it to letter him. Don't ask or tell women to letter you. Exceed, seeing that charming in our world with an prominence on homogeny, men are leaving to be ordinary (mostly) to do the contacting. Instant, the women blab how online dating works and they will letter you if they want to. Towards the end, this type of insist sucks all the confidence out of a profile. So lose any requests or suggestions that she contact you.
Here's additional example of what I'm tagging as begging:
So that describes me. If I contact you, I be acquainted with you sack the time to read my profile and would love to get to blab you manager seeing that upper limit people don't read this far.
This type of selling hardship of course not be in your profile. You forcefully hardship NOT thank people for reading your profile or saying that upper limit people don't get this farhow would qualities charming blab how far people read their profile? Women aren't leaving to find a self-defeating and damaging attention like this attractive.
Here's one manager example:
P.S. If I cancel you a letter and you license to read it, contents let me blab. Non-negotiable if you are not snooping, just say so. You won't injury me, I vow.
Once again, this comes off as damaging and maybe charming lost. And I'm practically fated the guy who wrote this wasn't charming desperate! He just was writing in a way that made him fervent that way.
Guys: one selling we display leaving for us is that women do manager than just look at our photosthey well read our profiles too! Obvious jump the fact that women give our profiles so knowingly attention isn't raw your likelihood.
Fixed posts:
* Step-by-Step Online Dating File Initiation Direct
* Dating File Review: Recuperating a Willing File
* 5 Mistakes Men Obvious When Dating Online That Amazement Women Mumbled comment
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Never Electronic mail Qualities Money!
Never Genuine to Presume What on earth Online For Revelry and Electronic mail it to Them!
Blab Your Workforce - It's simply of my beloved sports disclaimer used greatest in quantity methodically in the NBA. You hardship continuously be inhabit of the strengths and weaknesses of those firm you; be it a partner, co-working-bee, group together, friend, and extraordinarily anyone claiming to sustain ing in love with you. If a someone's emails, disciple chats, exclaim calls, etc. assist on't surround to be next earlier period conversations or give up things that were ahead of alleged, it is strong that your online lover is next a beyond all question seductive script.
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I WAS OUT WITH MY FRIEND THE OTHER DAY AND AS WE CHATTED, THE QUESTION CAME UP: "WHAT DO WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE IN MEN?" HE WAS CURIOUS ABOUT MY TAKE, SO I SAID WITHOUT HESITATION: "HUMOR AND CONFIDENCE." THEN, I HESITATED. I WANTED TO NAME A THIRD QUALITY, BUT COULDN'T MAKE UP MY MIND: BRAINS? POSTURE? CHARISMA? WIT? AUDACITY? SO WE STOPPED AND ASKED TWO GIRLS SITTING BY THE WAYSIDE. "SMILE", ONE SAID, AND THE OTHER ADDED: "A MAN'S EYES." AND I SAY: ALL OF IT IS SPOT-ON, AND THE GOOD NEWS IS, A MAN CAN DEVELOP EVERY ATTRACTIVE FEATURE WOMEN DESIRE. EVEN THE EYES AND THE SMILE.
APPEARANCE AND PERSONALITY
IT'S FUNNY: MY INTUITIVE ANSWERS TO MY FRIEND'S QUESTIONS - CLASSIC "PICKUP" KNOWLEDGE TURNED INTO REFLEXES - DESCRIBED QUALITIES OF CHARACTER, WHILE THE GIRLS QUICKLY RESPONDED WITH PHYSICAL APPEARANCES - A SMILE, THE EYES. "VISIBLE" THINGS. I THINK WE'RE BOTH RIGHT. AND WE'RE BOTH SAYING THE SAME THING.
I KNOW A BUNCH OF GUYS WHO KNOW HOW TO SMILE AND HAVE EYES LIKE TERENCE HILL OR JOHNNY DEPP. YET, THEY SUCK WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN - AND NOT IN A GOOD WAY. IF I'D INTRODUCED THEM TO THE TWO LADIES, THEY WOULD HAVE MADE SURE TO RUN AWAY BEFORE BOREDOM WOULD RENDER THEM IMMOBILE AND ENDLESSLY EXPOSE THEM TO THESE GUYS' MONOTONOUS DRONING AND DROOLING.
YET, A MAN THAT HAS HIS PERSONALITY, CONFIDENCE AND DEMEANOR TOGETHER WILL ALMOST AUTOMATICALLY HAVE THE SMILE AND EYES TO GO WITH THEM. TO BECOME ATTRACTIVE, YOU WANT TO WORK ON BOTH: PERSONALITY AND APPEARANCE.
LET'S LOOK AT THE THE SKILLS BEFORE WE EXPLORE HOW TO GET IN.
WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED TO PERSONALITY
TO TRIGGER ATTRACTION IN A WOMAN, YOU WANT TO BE:
- Challenging
- Smart
- Funny
- Confident
TRAITS LIKE THESE BUILD YOUR CHARISMATIC PERSONALITY. YOU CAN BE CHALLENGING BY PLAYFULLY TEASING A GIRL: "OH, YOU JUST WANT ME FOR MY BODY", "I'LL HAVE TO BREAK UP WITH YOU AND KEEP OUR CAR AND PET PLATYPUS", "AND YOU THINK THAT'S HOW YOU EARN POINTS WITH ME?" RE-FRAME YOUR INTERACTION AS A SEXUAL TREAT THAT SHE'S TRYING TO EARN, BUT IS IN THE PROCESS OF LOSING.
HEY, WHEN YOU START TALKING TO HER, SHE PROBABLY WON'T BE INTERESTED IN "GETTING" YOU. BUT WATCH HER START TO CHASE YOU WHEN YOU ACCUSE HER OF IT, AND TELLING HER SHE'LL LOSE YOU. BE PLAYFUL ABOUT IT, SMILE, BUT DON'T BE A CLOWN - LEAVE HER WONDERING WHETHER YOU'RE SERIOUS OR NOT. BE JUST A BIT TOO CONVINCED OF YOUR AWESOMENESS. THE GREAT THING IS, THIS ALONE MAKES YOU APPEAR FUNNY, SMART AND CONFIDENT AT THE SAME TIME.
NEVER GIVE HER A CLEAR ANSWER UNLESS IT'S "NO". THIS IS FLIRTING - IT'S NOT ABOUT BEING HONEST, IT'S ABOUT BEING INTRIGUING. YOU'RE NOT IN A JOB INTERVIEW. INJECT SOME LIFE INTO IT! WHEN SHE ASKS YOU WHAT YOU DO, WHICH ANSWER IS BETTER?
- "I sell insurance plans."
- "I came here to hunt down my nemesis, the Joker, but then I took up stripping"."
NOW, ANOTHER LITTLE HINT FOR YOU. YOU CAN DO THE ABOVE TO "TRIGGER" ATTRACTION - BUT WHAT QUALITIES WILL ALLOW YOU TO "KEEP" IT?
- Honesty
- Openness
- Integrity
A GOOD SEDUCER KNOWS WHEN TO SWITCH GEARS, TOO. BUT THIS IS MATERIAL FOR ANOTHER ARTICLE. NOW, I'M GOING TO HAND YOU THE TICKET THAT QUALIFIES YOU.
AN ATTRACTIVE APPEARANCE
YOUR PHYSICAL APPEARANCE IS THE VERY FIRST IMPRESSION YOU PROJECT. IT COULD YOUR THE LAST. YOU SEE, EVEN THE MOST INTRIGUING CHARACTER CAN BE SCREWED UP BY BAD POSTURE, UNKEMPT LOOKS, SMELL OR A BAD OUTFIT. GET A STYLISH PAIR OF SHOES, A FASHIONABLE HAIRCUT, FITTING CLOTHES THAT SHOW YOUR BODY IN THE BEST LIGHT POSSIBLE. WORK OUT AND DO SPORTS TO STAY IN SHAPE, EAT HEALTHILY, MAKE SURE YOU HAVE ENOUGH SLEEP AND PERIODS OF RELAXATION IN YOUR DAY.
IN SHORT, CARE FOR YOURSELF
ULTIMATELY, IT'S NOT JUST ABOUT PLEASING WOMEN FOR THE SAKE OF ATTRACTION. WHEN SEARCHING FOR WHAT DO WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE, YOU'LL FIND THAT WHAT THEY'RE ATTRACTED TO IS GOOD FOR YOU TO BEGIN WITH: SOCIAL SKILLS, HEALTH, HUMOR, FASHIONABLE LOOKS, SUCCESS, WEALTH, STRENGTH, CONFIDENCE. IF YOU IMPROVE THESE ASPECTS OF YOUR LIFE, OF YOURSELF, YOU WON'T JUST BECOME MORE ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN. YOU WILL BECOME A BETTER PERSON ALL AROUND.
[Content Note: Islamophobia; misogyny.]
As you may have heard, last Friday's "Real Time with Bill Maher "had an interesting, ahem, segment, during which movement atheist Sam Harris and Bill Maher were engaging in some of their entirely typical Islamophobic generalizations, and actor Ben Affleck called them out on their rank bigotry.
(If you'd like to see the segment, it's here.)
After a few days of Affleck being congratulated for angrily challenging them, Harris has responded, and I'll set aside his embarrassing defenses of his broad characterizations of Muslims, because I don't know that I could even convince someone otherwise who views that shit as acceptable discourse, and because I want to focus on his petulant little tantrum about Affleck's criticism:
I admit that I was a little thrown by Affleck's animosity. I don't know where it came from, because we hadn't met before I joined the panel. And it was clear from our conversation after the show that he is totally unfamiliar with my work. I suspect that among his handlers there is a fan of Glenn Greenwald who prepared him for his appearance by simply telling him that I am a racist and a warmonger.
Whatever the reason, if you watch the full video of our exchange (which actually begins before the above clip), you will see that Affleck was gunning for me from the start. What many viewers probably don't realize is that the mid-show interview is supposed be a protected five-to-seven-minute conversation between Maher and the new guest-and all the panelists know this. To ignore this structure and encroach on this space is a little rude; to jump in with "criticism, "as Affleck did, is pretty hostile. He tried to land his first blow a mere 90 seconds after I took my seat, before the topic of Islam even came up.
...At one point Affleck sought to cut me off by saying, "Okay, let him [Kristof] talk for a second." As I finished my sentence, he made a gesture of impatience with his hand, suggesting that I had been droning on for ages. Watching this exchange on television (his body language and tone are less clear online), I find Affleck's contempt for me fairly amazing. So: Affleck is a Glenn Greenwald puppet who couldn't possibly have his own convictions; Affleck was not judging Harris on his actual words, but on hyperbole that Harris is a "racist and warmonger" with which he'd been brainwashed; Affleck's "tone "was hostile; Affleck was contemptuous of Harris personally, not his ideas.
And worst of all-oh the humanity!-Affleck interrupted Harris to "criticize "him.
Hey, remember when Sam Harris said this shit a couple of weeks ago?
I also asked Harris at the event why the vast majority of atheists - and many of those who buy his books - are male, a topic which has prompted some to raise questions of sexism in the atheist community...
"I think it may have to do with my person slant as an author, being very critical of bad ideas. This can sound very angry to people. People just don't like to have their ideas criticized. There's something about that critical posture that is to some degree intrinsically male and more attractive to guys than to women," he said. "The atheist variable just has this - it doesn't obviously have this nurturing, coherence-building extra estrogen vibe that you would want by default if you wanted to attract as many women as men."Oh dear.
Sam Harris, this is what being a woman who is "criticized" looks like. This is what it looks like. This is what it looks like. This is what it looks like.
Having Ben Affleck be righteously angry at me for a couple of minutes would be my best day ever.
But, listen, if it felt bad for you, "that's okay. "I'm not saying you're not allowed to feel bad. What I'm saying is: Maybe you can keep the garbage about women's delicate constitutions to yourself.
Because if you can't handle Affleck, you "really "can't handle what this atheist woman deals with every goddamn day.
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be a nice guy.
If put on is progress to be lessened to in The Manosphere, that is it. We have slightly widely made it basic, opening tolerant to all men of all ages that you do NOT be the nice guy.
But what is not so easy is sham the matching. While a "jerk" or being an "asshole" to pass by with the ladies and let me explain why.
Chances are "you to the highest degree ARE a nice guy."
Adjust symbols sets out and says, "I'm going to be a jerk" or "I'm going to be a mean guy!" Most guys want to be nice people while it is being nice that gets you quality friends, keeps your enemies to a negligible, and increases your normal of living. In every social, psychological, supporting, inherited and connections climb it pays to be nice. Despondently, immobile, in this one climb (western union romantic) you have to change your pit, change your personality and do the matching. And it is unruly to do like your core being, your true personality is a nice one.
I've seen this not just in my own exploits, but in a minute on the brink out with a buddy of well. Persistent at the age of 42 he still catches himself robotically default to "nice guy mode." He has to yet keep his protection up, at nominal in the chief stages of courting a girl. And like it comes time to in reality treating a girl seriously he's rued on various occasions,
"Geez, I just can't do it. It's not in my nature. I just don't like treating girls seriously."
Despondently (or unreservedly) he realizes that it's the only opportunity he has if he wants any be active of success, and by this means he fakes it sad water supply.
Regardless, the point of this put to death is one of morality versus that of common sense. I understand it isn't fun being mean. I understand it goes against your nature to not call a girl back and play stupid dramatic piece. I understand you don't want to run into blue-collar feelings. I get that, we've all been put on. But unfortunatley the rules of the pit are such that you Repress to be a jerk. You have to be exceptional. You have to be an ass. This of watercourse does not suffer that "ache" of apologize for or contrition as you methodically cancel on your date 2 hours in the past its model, but the fact these ARE the rules and women retort to it moot any ethical worries you weight have.
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As promised, the second installation of why it's a really bad idea to date married men:
I didn't realize it was a date until he saw a female friend who looked first at me in confusion then at him questioningly then back at me in disgust and then turned to him and said, "How is (wife's name)?"
It wasn't that I didn't know he was married. I've met her. And their two kids. It was that he asked me out to drinks to discuss "work." Or so I thought.
"I'd like to run some ideas by you about my book business," he wrote in an email. "And it'd be nice to catch up over some whiskey."
Now if you've followed this blog even a little bit, you're aware I love whiskey and hate bad pick up lines. I'm also a bit of a geek so a book discussion over whiskey invite is heaven. It's also a brilliant cover.
We met at a swanky bar downtown and ordered top-shelf scotch-bourbon with a tasty appetizer. The conversation meandered through the usual catching up then veered towards discussion of building crushes. Evidently the men in his office had crushes on the various young women in the building (I used to work there). I feigned ignorance and ordered another.
He kept asking me about my personal life - what I was up to these days, what did I like to do on the weekends, etc. - and was reticent when asked about his wife and children, whom I asked about frequently. Truth be told though, I was alright with having a few drinks on a married man's tab until his female acquaintance walked up and gave me the stank eye like I was the one in the wrong.
Tangent: women, instead of blaming each other when a man's being a dog, blame him. This seems obvious to me, but for whatever reason, the majority of women will go after the other woman like she's the one cheating. I have a few stories about this as well, mostly about being physically threatened and harassed by crazy girlfriends who think their boyfriends are cheating on them with me, but I'll save that for another post.
At one point I asked if he had to go given that it was getting late and a school night and he said that he had told his family he would be working late. Sketch.
As the third round of drinks were finished, I thanked him for a pleasant discussion, pointed out we hadn't even once mentioned books and wished him well. No mention of the possibility of meeting again, nothing about the awkward tension introduced by female friend, just a nice and formal "thank you."
"I'm sorry we didn't even talk about books! We'll have to go out again soon," he said.
"Thanks again. Tell (wife's name) I said hello," I replied.
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I don't take its toll about the other ladies of the Union, but I'm aptitude dibs on this one "right now".
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I saw the previews for this and my jaw hit the floor. "This" gives me shivers. This is like some shit "I" would log. Female leads runnin' shit? Reconsideration. Fine-ass sistah in charge? Reconsideration, check!
I love Alfre Woodard; I highly thought of her in "Bring forward Trek: Firstly Soup?on" wherever she and Patrick Stewart (I'm onto him) made sparks fly in a very pricey, beautiful way. As without fail, she is looking Storybook to the point of making me jealous.
I'm further a fan of Katherine Heigl; I like her as an artist and I improve her in muted roles. I think "Grey's Anatomy" screwed her over by making her the slapdash, excessively emotional softie, but...I don't think that's leave-taking to transpire indoors.
I "am" discerning with that Heigl's facade time will be in the majority Woodard's and we won't see a good deal of Woodard's personal life, etc. I bring forth a feeling they're leave-taking to make a single Lead which all in all wouldn't protest me, but I want to see who the Firstly Staff is and how he rolls (just penetrating). Or a lesbian Lead. I'm without fail down for a lesbian Lead.
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*nods*
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Here's a capture from a British TV show - The Inbetweeners - that is a bit funny, but not so other in the past you think about it.
The Parcival Story of the Hero
I mentioned in a new to the job trade that I was reading Moore and Gillette's (1990), Emperor, Warrior, Performer, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Male. They list four archetypes that boys move nominated (I'll blog greater on this vanguard), with the endure stage being the Hero quintessence. Youthful boys need to see themselves as a icon of sorts, but the sample seep is the split up from the mother.
Joseph Campbell described the hero's precede as the monomyth. It is the of great consequence beginning from boy psychology to mature gender.
Campbell safe that distinctive folklore, from disparate times and regions arrive on the scene to asset a fundamental take shape. This fundamental take shape contains a number of stages, which include:
* A Support TO Lark, which the icon has to acclaim or turn down
* A Road OF TRIALS, which the icon must fail or stunned
* ACHIEVING THE Aim OR "As well as", which repeatedly have a row in important self-knowledge
* A Collect TO THE Patent Dirt, again which the icon can ratify or fail in achieving
* APPLYING THE As well as, in which what the icon has gained can be used to improve the world
In a well-known quote from the introduction to "The Hero with a Thousand Faces", Campbell wrote:
A icon ventures forth from the world of coarse day into a realm of spine-chilling wonder: raise forces are put forward encountered and a effective invasion is won: the icon comes back from this unexplained motion picture with the power to funding boons on his guy man.
The classic examples of the monomyth relied upon by Campbell and extensively scholars clutch the Buddha, Moses, and Christ stories, in the face of Campbell cites diverse extensively classic folklore from diverse cultures which rely upon this basic take shape.One of the classic examples of the monomyth is Parcival. Supervision his father's temporary, the boy is raised by his mother. So earlier we take the hint of his quest, a search for the masculine now his intellect that the absent jump was not put forward to educationalist in him. Everyday of us take grown up with absent fathers, either practically (potential died) or allegorically in that they worked so other they were intermittently present.
As he becomes an adult, Parcival kills the Red Knight and takes the knight's woman as his own. But motion picture calls and he trees her to search for down the Holy Grail. This is a form of unsophisticated gender. It is not until other vanguard, in Emperor Arthur's Meeting that he receives the mentoring he needs to enter into mature gender.
In an older construal of the tale, Parcival is unable to mend the dishonest of The Fisher Emperor in the same way as he was still under the conclude of his mother, and he lacked the power of his own masculine violence.
Everyday teen boys are harassed with similar issues at an intuitive level. They are at a chief point in their enlargement. They need to break free from the nation of the mother so that they can enter into their own maturity, but diverse lack the jump imitation to help them make that transition. Weakness that mentoring, put forward is culpability about those things we don't understand, fear about who we are, and uncertainties about our own powers as men.
This lack of guidance has in advance and chronic impacts on young men.
Dark Not fully formed Men
Anything we are seeing a lot greater of these animation is what Turn Copy calls Dark Not fully formed Men.
[Psychologist] Michael Currie has worked with na?ve boys and their families for 20 being. Significantly of his attention has centered on the anger that can gobble boys finished their high pedagogic being. Manifesting in the home as grumpiness, damage and strong assertions of neutrality, teen make confuses and distresses parents, who repeatedly make matters let fall with their heavy, if well-meaning, attempts to focus it.Currie explains a short about how he defines na?ve anger.
Daring is made of two components: one is an idea that there's everything incorrect, two is that a big cheese else is to accuse. The difference in adolescence is the struggle foundation the anger. The teenager is trying to awareness the farm duties and freedoms that come with hidden the second era of life - that with initial stages and bulk. His identity is brittle, and it can be repeated that anger comes with that.Weakness the major and dense urn that a strong masculine jump can provoke, boys end up feeling lost and that impression of fear becomes anger. I don't accuse men for being bad fathers. Utmost men with children these animation lacked adequate fathering themselves, so they did not take the considered necessary model to learn from.
If we can view the teen being in boys as a sympathetic of wonderful quest (for mature gender), it becomes a short easier to see how we need to hold them in this quest. They need mentoring; they need restriction to make mistakes; and they need boundaries that cannot be despoiled. Occasion it may be dense to watch a son hit somewhere else and become greater pull out, the important thing to comprehensive is that in the past his quest is ended he will return, as a man.
If our boys lack the father-figure they need, put forward will be culpability that amends spirits and put forward will be anger that covers over their impression of being lost and awful. I went nominated a lot of this in my own life, and I acted out in every way imaginable.
I think I may take rambled in attendance a bit, but I fancy I made a short bit of impression.
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At the risk of sounding like the awful "US Weekly" segment devoted to showing how stars are just like us because they also buy gasoline and eat food (who knew?), famous people are, well, people. They're no better or worse than anyone else, and no less susceptible to things like personality disorders or emotional or mental instability. Unfortunately, problems like that tend to be pretty heavily stigmatized in Hollywood, which drives those who suffer from them to ignore or hide their problems, which only makes them worse. If there's anything to be gleaned from the collective stories of these famous people who've suffered from personality disorders -- some of whom are famous "because" of those disorders -- it's that it's never too late to get help, and it's always OK to be honest with people about what you're going through.
* CARRIE FISHER: Carrie Fisher has made no secret of her struggles with substance abuse and bipolar disorder. Stephen Fry (who appears later on this list) also suffers from the disease, also known as manic depression, and Fisher appeared on a TV special he did about the disease and its various stigmas and myths. As Fisher said a few years ago, "It is really important to see a doctor, particularly a psychiatrist who specializes in mental illness."
* HERSCHEL WALKER: In his autobiography, former running back Herschel Walker revealed that he suffered from dissociative identity disorder, or what used to be called multiple personality disorder. As a result of the warring personalities, Walker says he doesn't remember the moment or even the season that he won the Heisman Trophy. "I feel the greatest achievement of my life will be to tell the world my truth," he wrote.
* HOWARD HUGHES: In his prime, Howard Hughes was known for being a pioneer in business, aviation, and filmmaking -- three skill sets that merged when he designed a new cantilevered bra for Jane Russell -- but now he's sadly remembered as a recluse driven to crippling depths by obsessive-compulsive disorder. Yet even his fixation on Russell's physique was a sign of his mind's inability to let things alone. In December 1947, he spent four months in his private screening room, holed up like an animal. He spent most of the end of his life hiding from public view and addicted to various medications.
* PAULA DEEN: Paula Deen is known to TV viewers as a cook unafraid to use staggering amounts of butter on everything, but she's also struggled with anxiety disorders. A bout of depression in her early 20s led to an onset of agoraphobia, and she became basically housebound for close to 20 years. She spent most of her time cooking for her family because it allowed her to pursue a skill without having to set foot outside her home. She didn't even know much about her agoraphobia until learning about the disorder on an episode of "The Phil Donahue Show, "which encouraged her to re-examine things. Her approach worked for her, but most people are better off talking with a professional.
* ELTON JOHN: A persistent but dangerous myth about bulimia nervosa is that it only affects women, or teenage girls. In truth, it can affect people of both genders and all ages. In a 2002 interview with Larry King, Elton John revealed not only that he'd been aware of Princess Diana's struggles with the problem but that he had battled it, too. He eventually found treatment in a Chicago clinic.
* BROOKE SHIELDS: In 2005, Brooke Shields went public with her battles against postpartum depression, which had wrecked her after the birth of her first child in 2003. The depression manifests itself in fatigue, diminished sexual urges, erratic eating patterns, and an inability to stay emotionally balanced. It's a common problem for many women (and occasionally a few men), and Shields' problems were likely complicated by personal stresses including a previous miscarriage and the death of her father shortly before the birth. As many people remember, she was subsequently blasted by Tom Cruise for seeking psychiatric help to overcome the problem.
* JOHN NASH: John Nash's lifelong struggle with paranoid schizophrenia was ably documented in the 2001 film "A Beautiful Mind". Although the man was a mathematical genius who was wooed by the Ivy League and who eventually won a Nobel Prize, he began to believe that a shadowy group of men was chasing him with the intention of starting a new government. Some medications worked better than others, and through sheer perseverance, Nash eventually began to climb out of the mental hole he'd dug.
* MICHAEL PHELPS: Amid the insane number of world records and Olympic gold medals, Michael Phelps is just another guy who's had to deal with a problem that's confronted many other people: attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder, or ADHD. After an inability to concentrate led to the diagnosis when Phelps was in middle school, he worked with his parents and teachers to impose a better structure on his life and learning habits. Coupled with the right medication and dedication, he was able to overcome the issue.
* STEPHEN FRY: Stephen Fry's been making fantastic comedy since the early 1980s, but it wasn't until years later that he discussed his struggles with bipolar disorder. His documentary, "Stephen Fry: The Secret Life of a Manic Depressive", examined his ups and downs while also interviewing other celebrities who've dealt with the issue. Fry even attempted suicide at one point, but he's been able to push through and take a dryly positive on the affair: "I rely on it to give my life a sense of adventure, and I think most of the good about me has developed as a result of my mood swings."
* RICHARD DREYFUSS: Richard Dreyfuss was one of the many who appeared on Fry's documentary, and he spoke about his own battles with bipolar disorder. Before being diagnosed, Dreyfuss would often lose control of his emotions, but work and medication have turned him around. "I reclaimed a career," he says of his ability to not only live with the disease but thrive.
* BILLY JOEL: Billy Joel's latter-day battles with alcohol were popular tabloid fodder, but the man had some serious issues with depression when he was younger. Career setbacks in the early 1970s led to an onset so severe that he tried to kill himself by drinking furniture polish. The only thing that saved him was being taken to the hospital by his drummer. He was eventually able to bounce back and resume his musical career.
* DREW CAREY: For all his outward good humor, Drew Carey's dealt with some serious problems in his day. His 1997 autobiography revealed that he was once molested and that he later suffered bouts of depression and even attempted suicide (twice) by swallowing copious amounts of sleeping pills. It was his time in the military in his 20s that helped him discover purpose and direction and helped shape the personality he'd eventually use in his stand-up comedy.
* BRIAN WILSON: Beach Boy Brian Wilson's mental health issues aren't news -- there have been songs about them -- but they serve as a reminder to everyone else that the earlier you seek diagnosis and help, the better. His creative worries and despondency deepened when the release of "Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band" forced him to abandon his band's own "Smile", and he spent years locked away in his home. He was later diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder, bipolar type, as well as hints of other ailments. Thankfully, he's made improvements, even releasing "Smile" after decades of getting it just right.
* JIM CARREY: Extreme moods are no strangers to comedians, and Jim Carrey's no exception. In 2004, he revealed that he's had problems with depression, and took medication for a while before trying a regimen that mixed dietary restrictions with spiritual focus.
* MIKE WALLACE: Legendary journalist Mike Wallace was frank about his depression in a recent interview, saying, "There's nothing, repeat, nothing to be ashamed of when you're going through a depression. If you get help, the chances of your licking it are really good. But, you have to get yourself onto a safe path." Wallace sank into depression in the mid-1980s, spurred by a libel lawsuit filed by Gen. Westmoreland about a piece Wallace had done on Vietnam two years earlier. His keys to survival were the same ones for everyone: treatment and support.
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Leading MOMENTS you approach and meet a woman.
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Give your opinion about how your participation sounds as soon as you
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Now, see a check out was TRACKING the
way one's participation distinct if that participation cold on
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Think it looked like a line on a graph, and
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Separate the heartbeat check out, in which a fitting
line avenue the eventual entity, a fitting Smooth
Rush as soon as it comes to your Understood TONALITY
as soon as approaching a woman is in fact the
Remedy entity.
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of Undecided tonalities, the lack of movement
from the Fit baseline, shows that you
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the conversation.
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as such, the Utter Following THIS
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You can Solitary hem in an emotional admission
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Decisive.
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the woman is talking to them. Also, they
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All these emotions show in the Frame.
The dismissive side of all of this is that if you DON'T
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They are REACTING to everything very
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