Its A Question Of Ethics

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The stench of corruption, the whiff of double standards and the slightly odd aroma of secrecy has wafted through our media over the past few weeks. So how does one set ones moral compass in the modern world, what is acceptable and what is not, who is your moral guide and where do you plant your moral standard. Most people will adopt a black and white position, which they shift as circumstances change. Personally I think that we need to start this debate by firstly recognising that we live in a strongly dichotomous world; how do you know what good is, unless you also know what bad is. Once you start with that you can then ask yourself what is it that I prefer. Then express what it is that you prefer to experience in your life; if you want happiness and trust then trust that you will be happy. We have a tendency in life to get back what we give out. If you don't believe in yourself, then you may attract a partner that doesn't believe in you either.

Within NLP there are a series of beliefs that we ask people to adopt when they are interacting with other people. We call these Presuppositions of NLP, I am not saying that they are true, what I am saying is that if you act as if they are true then you will get better results with the people that you engage with. Here are some of NLP Presuppositions that you may well find useful:-

oRespect the other persons model of the world - this does not mean that you accept it without question; instead it means that you enter into their world view and if required you challenge or change it from within.

oPeople are not their behaviours - Accept, love, respect the other person and at the same time you do not have to accept their behaviour. With this you no longer have a naughty child you have naughty behaviour.

oAll behaviour is motivated by a positive intention - Positive for the person doing the behaviour that is.

oThe most important information about someone else is their behaviour - You no longer need to put up with behaviour from others that you do not like.

oEveryone is doing the best with the resources that they have - I agree that this does not always appear to be the case but if you assume that it is then you get better results yourself. Also this applies to you too, so give yourself a break, and forgive yourself.

oThere is no failure only feedback - We have all had experiences in life when failure grips us and we cannot tell ourselves positive things or see our own success. When this happens you have to place yourself in a confident frame of mind and ask yourself, what can I learn from this experience? Remember life gives you the test first and then the lesson afterwards.

The NLP Presuppositions are a good to have in place when choosing to judge yourself or others. Also a common theme that helps is one we have visited before and we will again. It is to remember to be at cause in your life, accept personal responsibility for your life, because to do so allows you to take charge of it and shape the way that you want, the way that you prefer.

If I can, I would like to conclude on a judgement note myself. If we want a better world then a component of that is for us to demand more openness, expose corruption and double standards in all walks of life. Be an active part of that, and if you want people to tell you the truth, you need to make sure that you are mature enough to be able to handle it. There are no rights without responsibilities and freedom isn't free